Self Love-Self Respect And Self Acceptance-Why It Is So Important?
The greatest gift that you could ever give to yourself, is for you to like who you are, to love yourself unconditionally and for you to be your true authentic self.
There are many wonderful reason why you should love, respect and accept yourself, unconditionally, which will benefit you; physically, psychologically, spiritually and emotionally.
Some of the tremendous positive and life transforming benefits you will reap, are:
- You will start to feel good
- You will free yourself from, much of your emotional suffering and inner conflict
- You will feel happier within
- You will begin to feel at peace with yourself and your life
- It will help to promote better wellness and emotional well-being
- You will no longer feel the need for the approval of others
- Others will like, love and respect you more
- Your self esteem and self confidence will increase
- You will be able to tune into your creativity and positive energy of life
- You will be able to open up to your true authentic and sixth sense powers
You are your best friend and your best teacher. Therefore, treat yourself like you are the most important and precious person in your life, because you are.
Without being judgemental, without being self critical, without beating yourself up, without wanting to compare yourself to others and without being too hard, on yourself.
Although it is good to have your our own goals, desires and wants and it is fine to want to grow, expand and live your best life.
This should never be confused with kind of self destructive thinking, where you wrongly, convince yourself that there is something wrong with you. You're somehow, not good enough or you think that you need to improve, because you dislike part of yourself or who you are.
As those types of thinking errors, will send the wrong message to your inner being; which is the non physical part of you who loves and cares about you deeply.
Which is connected to the all knowing part of you, that already knows how amazing you are, how capable you are and how powerful, you really are.
Accept and respect yourself
Do you feel happy in your own skin, do you think of yourself as a worthy, valuable, smart and capable person, have you a high regard for yourself and are you the kind of person who focuses on their good points, talents, strengths and abilities?
Because the more you value, respect and accept yourself, the easier you will you find it to handle and negotiate through life's challenges and difficulties and the more you will be able to excel in life.
This does no mean going around thinking that you're perfect, because we all have our own flaws and weaknesses, but it is better to accept them and focus on our strengths as well as learning how to treat yourself good.
Because when you feel worthy, you feel loveable and you feel you deserve good things, then those good things and better times, will start to come your way.
The more you accept and respect yourself, the more you allow yourself to be who you truly are at source and the more you allow the true authentic you to shine through.
The more you will start to relay back to your inner self, that there is nothing wrong with you, (There never has been), and the more you will start to love and respect yourself.
Where we sometimes go wrong in life is in the thinking that we have to think positive and feel perfect, happy and joyful all the time.
Although, that is a good policy to follow, you have to remember that you are only human and bad things happen to all of us.
Therefore, it is wise to allow yourself to feel fearful, disappointed, frustrated and negative at times, as well.
Otherwise you will end up trying to suppress your thoughts and feelings, which can cause you to become fearful of your thoughts and feelings, which will compound them and make things worse, not better.
Even though you should focus on being yourself, enjoying yourself and feeling good, nobody can feel on top of the world everyday and it is important how to learn to quickly let go and overcome adversity,
If you're human, then you're going to feel negative, down, defeated and fearful at times.
The important thing to be aware of is: It is not bad thing to have a negative thoughts or feelings, neither is it bad to feel fearful, sad or disappointed, as long as you don't stay there for too long.
Sometimes negative thoughts and emotions are trying to relay an important message to us, so listen to the message, feel the feelings, then decide whether you need to take any action or let it go.
You cannot go through life, thinking positive all the time and life is not always perfect, neither can you avoid making mistakes, adversity or getting things wrong.
It is how you react, perceive and handle the bad times that really counts, so feel the negative emotion, allow yourself to be fearful, then focus on working on getting better.
When you notice any negative or fearful thoughts and emotions, rising.
Just observe them and allow them to be, without being judgemental on yourself, then allow those emotions to rise up through you and away, and they will soon disappear and leave you alone.
You have not got to spend all of your precious and valuable life, trying to fight and defeat your thoughts and feelings, nor have you got to analyse or question, why you're having them.
Just accept them as just being random thoughts, and negative thoughts are a part of everybody, just accept them, accept what is, accept what might happen and show yourself, even more love and kindness.
Instead of trying to suppress your thoughts and feelings, let your mind experience every single thought that you have and allow them to run their course, without you engaging in them or without you judging or reacting to them.
When we accept a bit of discomfort and suffering and we have a knowing that everything will be fine, everything will workout right in the end, the suffering will soon pass.
Talk to your scared or negative self, and give yourself, plenty of positive reassurance, praise and self encouragement.
Show a bit of compassion for yourself. Let yourself know you're perfectly safe, everything will be OK and have a strong faith and deep knowing, that you'll figure things out or you'll get better, then bring your attention back to the here and now.
The same applies when you think that there is something wrong with you, you think you need to improve or you pretend to be somebody that your not, as this can cause you to bury and suppress, your true authentic self.
You cannot be yourself and you cannot unleash your true sixth sense powers and potential, if you think that there is something wrong with you.
When you accept who you are and you love who you are, then you will begin to end all that inner conflict with yourself and you will start to be at peace with yourself, because everybody is beautiful, in their own way.
Make way for you true authentic and powerful self
All you have to do, is to be who you really are, accept who you really are and love who you really are and then focus on enjoying your life, accomplishing your goals and living your best life.
Know that you are worthy enough, know that you deserve good things and know that you have the ability and capabilities, to achieve, everything that you want, in life.
Because, when you cease fighting with yourself, when you cease fighting with life and you cease resisting your thoughts and feelings, and you love yourself unconditionally and you allow yourself to be yourself,
You will start to get in touch and make a deep connection with the larger non physical and all knowing and all powerful part of you that has no limits, restrictions or boundaries.
Allowing you to start to unleash your true inner creative powers, greatness and capabilities, because self love is really, the best kind of love.
When people think about loving and accepting themselves, they tend to focus on their external self and body, but there is way more to you that expands way beyond, the physical you that you see in the mirror.
So when you send yourself love, send that love to the whole you, including your inner being and the larger, non physical part of you, that is connected to the source that created you.
You were born to love, enjoy and make the most of your life experience and true potential
As a young baby and child, we are showered with love, affection and attention, we are also protected and everything is taken care for us, so we do not need to really think, defend or look after ourselves.
But as we grow up, although the love is still there, your no longer the cute and adored little child and bit by bit, you reach a point where you expected to stand on your own two feet more and more.
Even though you're not always fully mentally and emotionally, prepared for the challenges and difficulties that are to come.
For a young adult, adapting to, conforming and fitting into the adult world and environment, can be a shocked to the system.
Without the right support, preparation, understanding and guidance, you can end up feeling lost, insecure as you are suddenly chucked into the so called real world, without any know how, experience and a lot of people end up frustrated in their life.
With all your unresolved emotional baggage, stressors, environmental conditioning, social pressures, problems and fear, you can soon lose the deep sense of connection with your true, authentic and powerful self, who are capable of of achieving anything that they want.
Because, you are more than capable of achieving your goals and living your greatest life, once you restore your energy and consciousness, to the positive frequency range, where you are able to tap into your true powers, creativity and potential.
Most people in their search for love, look outwardly at others, to provide them with the love and attention, that they crave.
Yes, it is beautiful to love and be loved by others, as long as you love and accept yourself, unconditionally.
However, if do not love and approve of yourself, and many people are coming from a place of fear and insecurity.
Then the more you rely on others for the love and approval that you're seeking, the more of your powers you will be giving away.
Wanting to be loved, liked and accepted by others, seems to be a growing trend.
This is more and more evident in today's world of the internet, society and social media, with the rise of mental health conditions, anxiety and depression.
Statistics are telling us, that there appears to be and ever increasing, need by people, to be liked, to be popular, to be accepted and to be approved of by others.
If you feel you need to be liked and you want the love and approval of others, you have to be honest with yourself and ask yourself.
The real truth is, if you want to be liked, loved, respected and approved by others, then you have to go deep within yourself and start liking, loving, accepting and approving yourself, totally and unconditionally.
Because, nothing or nobody can give you the constant levels of love, respect and approval that you can give to yourself and nothing or nobody, can empower, motivate and inspire you more, than you can.
You have the power to fill yourself with love, you have the power to accept yourself and free yourself from your own self imposed prison and you have the ability to achieve your goals and passions.
Self acceptance is the first step to unconditional love
The first stage of cultivating self love and inner peace, starts off by learning to accept yourself, totally unconditionally, perceived faults included.
Virtually, everybody at some point, has probably felt unhappy with themselves or dissatisfied about certain parts of their looks or bodies.
When we are not happy and we do not accept and feel good about ourselves within, we start to look outwardly for the love, comfort and approval that we should really be giving ourselves.
People will often turn to others or material things and situations, to help make them feel better in their attempt to mask, try hide or suppress their inner feelings of emotional suffering and insecurity.
Some people, will use suppression or distraction tactics try and keep themselves busy, whilst others will seek the approval of others.
Other will try and replace the feelings of emptiness, anxiety, sadness and insecurity, with alcohol or even recreational addictive substances.
But, let's be honest, not only are these things bad for you, there will never offer you the solutions that you're looking for, infact, material things or situations, are not the solution, at all.
Addictions, material things or other people, do not make you happy nor so they necessary, prevent you from being happy, because the only thing that stops you from being happy, is yourself.
Sometimes the reasons for the need to have material things or addictive substance happens, because, people do not like, value or love themselves.
If you can start to love yourself and you can start to treat yourself kindly, by telling yourself that you're already good enough, capable enough, worthy enough and you deserve a loving and happy life.
Then as you begin to heal yourself from within, you will feel much more stronger and resourceful enough, to address, your physical problems and addictions.
Because there is no long term external fix, thing or situation that will replace or mask over those negative thoughts and feelings, unworthiness, unhappiness, imbalance and disharmony, within.
The one true answer, has always lied within you all the time, and it can be achieved by learning how to love, approve, respect and accept yourself.
The only thing that you should become addictive to is, loving, accepting and respecting yourself and when you feel happy and at peace within, others and the world around you, will start to change with you, for the better.
Why you should come from a place of love, not fear
Love and the positive emotions are your best friend. Therefore; they should be your most dominant energy.
Even though it is great to love our partners and family. You should not rely or depend on others to reap all the positive benefits, love and the positive emotions can give you.
In life you are either coming from the destructive and disempowering, negative feelings and emotions, such as; fear, anger, sadness and guilt.
Or you are coming from the empowering and all that is good, positive feelings and emotions, such as; love, calm, happiness and joy.
Out, of all the positive feelings and emotions; love is the most powerfulest, and the really beauty of love is, you have not got to depend on anybody else, to give out love.
Because, although it is wonderful to love others and to feel loved back, it will probably be little comfort to you, if you do not have a deep sense of love and approval, for yourself.
Your emotional well-being, your wellness, the quality of your relationships, your self esteem and much more, depends on.
- Loving yourself
- Accepting yourself
- Respecting yourself
Having a deep and meaningful connection and respect for yourself, is a great place to start, which should begin with, loving yourself and loving your life.
Thoughts and words carry their own, matching vibrational frequencies.
The positive words such as the likes of, "love" and "thank you", are two of the most potent words, known to humans.
They say fear protects us, but this is certainly not always true.
In fact, the majority of the time.
Fear and negative emotions, are not your greatest protectors, because prolonged periods of fear and negativity, are bad for your wellness, emotional well-being and the quality of your life.
There is an old saying.
"We attract more of the things that we fear the most"
The feelings and emotions, that protect and help us the most are love and the calm and positive, feelings and emotions.
The feelings and emotions that are associated with love, calm and happiness, are the emotions that protect and support you the most.
Because they help to promote good health, good emotional well-being and a greater and better life experience.
self love is the best type of love and self acceptance is the route to free yourself from your emotional suffering and free yourself from your battle with your inner being.
many people dislike who they are, whilst others will go to great lengths to hide their real true, authentic self
Love is all you need
Love yourself and your life, like you have never loved yourself before, if you want to truly live and grow, because it really is that important, and here'' why.
"Love yourself like your life depends on it, because it does"
Speaker and author of the amazing book.
Dying To Be Me.
Which can only be described as one of the most amazing stories, ever told.
In her book, Anita, who suffered from a life threatening illness, tells the sensational and life changing story, how she came back from the edge of death, to true healing, in a matter of three weeks and she achieved it by changing her state from one of fear to one of unconditional, love.
During her incredible experience, Anita, reveals, how she felt free and expanded, she also describes how she felt, what she describes in her own words, as an unconditional feeling of love, as she suddenly realized, that she does not have to do, anything to prove herself, nor does she have to do anything to, deserved to feel loved.
Because, she found out, she was loved, just because, she existed and all you have to do is love yourself and your life and just enjoy the journey.
You can also here fascinating story, on Youtube, which clearly demonstrates the power of love.
Only you, can bring about inner peace, happiness and love
If people would only realize how powerful they are, unique and capable they are, they would all start to come from a place of love, rather than fear.
Most people allow their physical world and their external situations and experiences, to dictate, rule and control them and how they feel.
Then, they let themselves emotionally react to their physical world, what is, what has happened and what might happen.
This, however; causes a negative state of resistance and focus of attention, which takes away all your power and true connection.
Because, all your power comes from within, and once you start to realize this, you will start to realize how truly powerful, amazing and magical being you really are, and always have been.
Because you have the power to empower yourself and live your best life, you have the choice, how happy, calm and good you feel, but equally; you also have the power to destroy and disempower yourself.
Every thought, the words that you speak, your experience, your learned behavior, your beliefs and idea has lead you to where you are at the moment.
This means, that only you can change what is and what can and will be. By learning how to let go of your emotional baggage, loving yourself unconditionally and starting to live your life without fear or negativity.
The truth is, there is no one not one person out of 7 billion people on this planet that has the exact same qualities and traits as you do.
This makes you truly unique and special so why don’t, people always feel this?
Maybe, it's because, they are living their life, in a state of fear or perhaps it’s because they feel the pressure that modern life puts on us to be perfect.
Like, trying to, aspire to be like glamour Hollywood actors and actresses, comparing themselves, unfavourably to glamour models or other successful or confident people.
Or perhaps you don’t feel loved? Or you feel your not important? Or you don’t look the way you want too
Perhaps, if you think that you can look or be like all the stars, models, wealthy or celebrities, that will make you happy right?
All these questions stem from a modern society that says we must be all these things in order to experience happiness and be successful.
But it’s false. A large part to being successful and actually getting more people to be attracted to you in life.
Is to love yourself, and to act your true self and then, become the very best and greatest, version of yourself.
Not to wear a mask and pretend your something you're not. People love you for being yourself, so learn to be your best self.
In life, there are no set rule for you to follow, because, we are all meant to be unique and individual in our personality that’s why people are drawn to us.
Imagine a goofy comedian, to most people he might look crazy and act it.
But everybody loves them: Why?
Because they are just being their true self and secretly, everybody, wants to be their true authentic self.
The trouble is, we start to lose touch with our true authentic self, because we try to be the person, we think, others expects us to be.
Some people, are even to afraid, to be themselves, through the fear of standing out from the crowd or through the fear of what others think.
So embrace yourself, learn to love yourself more look in the mirror and just say “I love you.”
Just saying these words can make you feel something.
Try it, just say to yourself “I love you.”
You should feel a warm tingly feeling in your stomach that feels nice and warm, and may even make you grin.
If you are a negative person who is hard on yourself. Lets say, you go through life saying:
“I’m not good enough” or “I can’t do this.”
It’s negative scripting and negative programming and conditioning, which will lead to a negative state and life.
If you listen to someone giving a positive talk and you listen to somebody giving a negative and scary talk, your body will react completely different.
Listening to positive words, news and messages, will make you feel good and uplift you, whilst listening to a negative talk or negative news will put you in a negative state doom and gloom or a state of fear.
Your body, reacts to your mind, the words you read or the words that you hear.
So imagine; what this would be like saying this to yourself day in day out for your whole life.
It’s going to bring you down, and because as humans we are energy and all connected it will bring people down around you when they are in your company.
You’ve probably heard the saying:
“You can cut the atmosphere with a knife.” When there's tension in a room between two people.
Why do you feel it?
Because we are all connected so we all feel these things. So when your angry and annoyed and negative towards yourself.
This energy will transmit to people your hanging around with... That kind of energy would suck on a first date right?
So change the way you think and feel about yourself... And see not only how it affects you and your life in a positive way.
But also people opinion and approach around you also! Give it a go?
What’s honestly the worst that could happen?
Another major plus to all this is you will start to experience more success in all walks of life just by loving yourself more!
Why do think billionaires are billionaires?
It’s often through their mindset above anything. This is why they can take an idea and make it work. While someone who’s negative and has the same idea will possibly fail.
Some things, to try:
When you say something negative in your head about yourself, change it to a positive.
Just change your perspective of the situation “I can’t do this.” To “I can learn to do this.”
Because, with the right mental attitude, you can figure and work things out or find a better way.
Look in the mirror and be pleased and satisfied with what you see.
If you don’t love yourself how do you expect other people too?
Try telling yourself I love you!
Because, you can avoid others but you cannot avoid yourself, and because your with yourself 100% of the your life isn’t it best to like and get along with yourself?
Make it a daily ritual, to show love and gratitude, including yourself
Write a diary, and list daily all the things you love about yourself.
And things you are grateful for.
This has been tested and shown it can really change your thinking and make you more positive and successful.
Just remember Whatever your life circumstances. Be happy with yourself. Happiness in internal not external, some of the most successful people in the world are really very unhappy with themselves.
Because they are not right internally.
Material objects and looking great does not guarantee happiness. Only accepting yourself and being happy regardless of your situation will bring about true happiness.
Many people who appear the strongest are often the most insecure or they hide behind or conform to their own ego, way to much.
The preparations for the next day, should start as you go to bed.
Before you go to bed. Look in the mirror and smile and then make it a habit to smile, as it can improve your mood, make other people feel safe and secure in your presence and your brain will use it as feedback, that everything is just fine.
As you look into the mirror, tell yourself, things like:
- "I love and approve of myself, thank you"
- "I love and accept myself, unconditionally, thank you"
- "I love my life and I love being me"
- "I now let go of anything that hurts me, I deserve to be free, thank you"
Then on awakening, do this again, tell yourself that:
" You're going to have a great day"
Then say some positive self statements or affirmations, about yourself, to yourself, like:
- "I am peaceful"
- " All is well, good things are coming my way"
- "Today I am grateful, for being me"
- "I am capable enough, of achieving, anything I want"
- "I am creative"
- "I am happy"
- "I am loveable"
- "I am good enough"
- "I am smart enough"
- "I am attractive enough"
- "Everyday, in every way, I am getting better and better"
- "I am healthy"
- "I am worthy enough"
- "I am valuable"
- "I am safe and secure"
Give up the fight with fear and what is and see it as an opportunity for you to relax and love, respect and appreciate yourself more.
Ask yourself, questions like:
Which of my fears can I release and let go of?
What is the logical belief/reason behind this fear?
How can I be myself more?
How can I enjoy myself more?
What can I do that will make me feel better/happier
Instead of in engaging and focusing on negative things or things that you don't want, give all your attention to focusing how you want to feel, how you want to be or what you would like to do or happen.