Getting Your Anger Under Control

"You can sense the anger starting to manifest, the angry thoughts are flooding your mind, you don't want to feel this way, but the intense and strong feelings and emotions are so overwhelming they push you into reacting in a way, that you know that you're regret it later"

You don't want a confrontation or to be overcome with rage, but you know where this is heading and you're not in a mood to back down or compromise.

The angry thoughts and feelings are pushing you into a fight or confrontation and you feel like you're about to unleash an outburst of rage, which you know you're going to regret later.

One tip is, do not deal with a stressful or confrontational situation whilst you're feeling angry, calm down first, and then resolve your problems or differences.

The more you can begin to reduce your stress and try to take some of the pressures of yourself the better.

Sometimes anger can be an inner sign of insecurity or it could stem from feelings of frustration, because things aren't going your way.

Some people use anger, to hide their inner insecurities and fears.

Tips To Help You Manage And Control Your Anger 

If you have already reached a point where you already anger issues have gotten out of control, then it may pay you to seek professional medical specialist help to help you to deal with your anger so you can get you and your life back.

1) Ride the storm

Mindfulness, awareness and emotional intelligence and doing some emotional work are the key to dealing with your anger issues.

Once you have already gotten angry, it's already too late, because you cannot de-activate the emotional arousal once it has started, so any attempts to try and stop your anger will be a waste of effort.

The best option if this happens is to ride the emotions and just allow the anger to ride out, if you can, try and remove yourself from the situation or triggers, because if you allow the momentum to carry on, the anger will build and build until you explode.

Once anger has been activated, it is best to go with it and let it fade out, because if you try to struggle with it, it just makes things worse.

Try to be more mindful, and be aware of the onset of your anger and see it as an inner guidance system that is letting you know that unless you pause for a minute and just feel the anger and ride the emotion, then your anger is going to get a whole lot worse.

Focus your attention on to something different, because once your anger has momentum you have to allow it to subside and pass before you can do something about it, because if you continue to feed it then it will escalate and continue.

If you can find somewhere quiet and take some slow, deep breaths, if you cannot escape, smile, relax your shoulders and count to ten and carry on breathing deeply and try and try to compose yourself.

When the emotion subsides and it will as long as you do not continue to feed it try and chill out and focus off the subject that has been making you angry.

Then, once you're feeling calm and more in control you can then review your situation and see if you can come up with a better strategy to deal with what's making you upset or annoyed.

2) Expressing Your Views Calmly

It is important that you express your opinions and views and it is equally as important for you to speak up and to have your say, especially if you feel passionate about something.

But it is not always a good idea to try and force people to agree with you or get them to conform with you or come around to your ideas, opinions and ways of thinking and doing things.

As it will sure to get your blood boiling and others might resist and oppose what you have to say. Another thing that can cause anger is trying to change people or trying to get them to change their way of thinking.

People have their own vies, beliefs and ways of living. So have you say, be heard, but say it in a calm and assertive voice or try a more tactical or softer approach.

Trying to get everybody to agree with you can be exhausting and it can cause you a lot on harmful stress, anger and frustration.

Sometimes it is not what you say, but how you say it that matters.

Anger is an emotional and physical state, so if you're stuck in an angry physical state, then do some form of exercising or physical activity.

Because your first priority is to change your state so you can return your mind and body back to a state of calm and inner peace, then once you're calm you need to work on staying calm and controlled.

Hit the gym and have a good workout or go for a long walk, because if you do not burn off the excessive energy then all that energy will remain in your body and you will remain in a tense and angry state.

3) Learn to relax deeply 

When you are experiencing strong emotions and feelings such as anger, your mind will search for ways to try to and justify these feelings. 

We react more with anger at times when we are feeling overly stressed, frustrated or tense and more often than not, if we are already in a negative mood or we feel agitated and irritated, those angry situations tend to find you.

When your body is tense, then you will tend to have more tense and annoying thoughts and you will have more angry reactions, so spending some time relaxing deeply can reduce your outburst.

You still might have issues to deal with but you will generally find that when you're feeling more relaxed, you will handle situations more calmly where before you would have reacted badly.

Things like meditation or going for long walks and observing nature will help you to let go of all that pent up anger.

Listening to relaxing music can help you to reduce your anger because the soothing rhythms of the music can transform your energy back to a calmer state.

Once the momentum and feelings have subsided, try and focus off the subject. If you find those anger thoughts and reactions keeps on creeping back up, then you may find that you need to tackle the issue or do some emotional work.

The good thing about relaxing deeply is not only will it induce feelings of calm, but you will also find that all those trivial things that were annoying you will no longer bother you anymore.

Practicing, deeply relaxing will take time, but the more you train yourself to feel calm the more control you will have over your responses and actions.

Anger is an emotional and physical state, therefore it is better to deal with your feelings first rather than trying to change your thoughts.  

Relaxation techniques will help you to change your state and when you change how you feel, your thoughts will change as well.

4) Identify the root source of your anger 

To overcome your anger, you may need to pinpoint and address the root cause of it because although in some cases there may be some justification for your outburst most of the time the only person to blame is yourself.

This will involve going deeper inside yourself to see if you can identify what's triggering your anger, you need to get to know yourself and your emotions so you can put a break on all that emotional arousal.

This means developing a bit of emotional intelligence. Our emotions act as inner guidance, they relay information to us which is coming from our subconscious mind.

These messages can mean one of two things. First, it can be a inner message to let us know we need to take some form of action or it is our inner being telling us that we need to let the matter go and give our attention to something else.

If you're having a lot of anger thoughts and reactions then this could indicate that there is something wrong inside that needs addressing or letting go of. 

We like to blame everything and everyone, but in the majority of situations the real problem lies with you. 

The next time you feel the red mist rising, pause, especially as you know it's potentially bad for your health and your well-being and just ask yourself is all the pain and damage that you're about to inflict on yourself are really worth it.

Try to pinpoint the root cause of your anger and if you dig beneath the surface you may discover the source of your rage could be, things like 

  • Guilt, 
  • Rejection 
  • Fear 
  • Sadness 
  • Loss 
  • You're not fulfilling your goals, wants and expectations. 

So you may need to look at some of the underlying emotions that are the source of your bad temper. 

It pays to accept that your ideology, beliefs and you standards may be very different to others and you can learn to disagree without falling out or getting angry.

We all make mistakes, so try not to overreact if someone makes a mistake or they don't meet your standards.

Try to identify your triggers and work on them and change the way you react and become mindful so you can spot the early signs of anger so you can intervene before you get out of control.

5) Change the way you respond 

Once you have pinpointed what it is that is triggering your angry responses you then need to be mindful so you can consciously intervene and break up these habitual patterns of behaviour, this will allow you to step in and stop the negative emotional arousal before it has time to gather momentum.

There are always other possibilities and better ways to respond, when you're angry or upset with somebody you will only tend to see the situation from your point of view or your you will judge things by your rules or standards. 

Yet to prevent any outburst it is always better to consider other people's opinions and points of view because not everybody has the same beliefs and not everybody wants to live their lives the way you do. 

When we're angry, we can blow everything out of proportion so try to see if you're making a mountain out of a mole hill. 

Also make sure you get adequate amounts of sleep and rest because tiredness can make you feel more irritated.

If the subject or situation that made you angry keeps cropping up and the chances are it will, then whilst you're feeling relaxed see if you can reduce the emotion that has attached itself to the problem or the subject or break it down.

You have not got to go back and try and analyze and endlessly go over what made you angry because you cannot go back so dwelling on what happened is pointless, let you know that you will figure the situation out.

Let yourself know that you're going to be better for having this experience and instead of beating yourself up, try and learn something from the situation that will make you a better person, because sometimes we have to grow from the experiences that are put in front of us.

Use your negative experience as an opportunity to change, and keep working on how you feel or make a plan or devise a better strategy to deal with similar types of situations in the future.

Let yourself know that you will handle the situation better next time, do not be upset by your anger, but make it your  goal to react calmly next time.

Have  a mantra like, my goal is to be calm and assertive and keep repeating it, if you know you have to face the person or situation again, plan ahead to stay calmer.

6) Thoughts and your imagination 

The angry thoughts that you have usually come after the strong emotions and physical symptoms.

It is the emotion and the feelings that drive all those angry thoughts that you're having.

The emotion becomes before the angry thoughts, which drives you to re-enact what happened or to plot your revenge.

Those angry stories if you follow them will push you to seek revenge and retribution.

Sometimes our imagination makes things up, so you cannot always trust it and try not to get engaged with it, especially when we suspect something, but were not really sure of an the outcome or the truth.

This is when our imagination can fill in the gaps and make things up, to try and make sense of our feelings.

You cannot control everything in your environment, you cannot always control all of your thoughts. 

But you can learn to change the way you respond to your thoughts and you can begin to change your attitude towards all the things that have been upsetting you.

Some people actually like the anger in a way because it can make them feel powerful and dominant and they use it as a defensive mechanism to prevent people from picking on them.

You need to be able to put a buffer in between your thoughts and the emotional arousal so the anger does not have a chance to build up any sort of momentum. 

Focus more on your outside environment, do more of the things that you enjoy and keep yourself occupied.

You can use your imagination to practice feeling calm and controlled in all those types of situation where before you would react with anger.

Visualizing situations where you see yourself keeping cool and calm in those situations that would normally trigger an angry response is also a good way of preparing yourself mentally to stay calm and control in the future. 

If you are struggling with your anger or you find that a particular subject or incident keeps cropping up, then you may need to do some emotional work, the link below will help you manage and control your anger.

7 Change your perceptions

Although you will probably have your own anger trigger points and situations, most of the time it's not the situations that are totally responsible for all of your anger outburst it also has a lot to do with your thoughts and your perceptions that your having about those situations.

Yes there will be times when people and things annoy you but the larger part of people's and is a direct result of all the after thoughts that they have long after the situation has passed.

As you may have already noticed anger attracts more anger and more angry related thoughts. If you have gotten angry then you need to release all that energy otherwise it can damage your health.

Then you may need to start to change some of your perceptions. Ask yourself is the thing that is bothering you really that important and does it really matter that much to you.

There will be times when you have to stand up for yourself but sometimes changing your perceptions or looking at the situation from a different point of view can help to stem those angry thoughts. 

8) Find Better Ways To Handle Situations

Sometimes people who are angry are really insecure themselves and they use their anger to give them courage, it is as if they use their anger to cover up their ow frailties and insecurities.

Others use it because they think it makes them more powerful and gives them control over others, in reality though real powerful people are usually more calm and controlled.

By expressing their anger many people get their own way, however eventually you will run the risk of upsetting someone who is much more physically stronger than you and they will stand up to you and challenging you. 

Once you are put in that situation you either have to carry on with the confrontation or back down and deem to look weak.

It also destroys relationships, puts you at risk of getting in trouble with the law or losing your job and it can get you involved in arguments and confrontations you could well do without. 

If people could see all the damage they are doing or they could see a film of how ridiculous they look when they're in a rage then they would think twice about how they react.

Angry people can be nice people when their calm and normal mild mannered people can be nasty when their angry. 

It is far better for you to deal with challenging situations and people with a more calm and controlled approach. 

Sometimes it's better to take a more calm but assertive approach, you can still get your point across without being backed up with all that high energy.

Once you allow your anger to take control over you then it is a sign that you have lost complete control over your emotions, behaviours and actions, basically you're handing over your power of control to other people and external situations.

9) Breathe your way back to calmness 

Every time you notice the onset of anger be mindful of what is happening to your body, because it is not all in the mind, your body will respond with chemical and physical reactions. 

The anti-dote to this is to consciously take control of your body so you can learn to control and manage your state. 

So stop for a minute, pause and take some slow, deep breaths, relax your shoulders and try and focus on some more pleasing or neutral thoughts or put your attention onto things in your environment. 

By regularly practicing this you will be able to stop the emotional and physical momentum from gathering pace.

Or if you're beginning to get angry over a situation stop yourself, count to ten, then walk away from the trigger situation. 

You can and go and find somewhere to sit for a few minutes while you again, do some deep breathing and then distract your attention of what's upsetting you, when you have calmed down either go and try to calmly deal with the situation or let the matter drop.

10) Let it go 

Another way to reduce your anger is to learn how to let go and to forgive and forget, yes, there may be people who have done horrible acts or said nasty things to you, but remember your not forgiven them for their own benefit, your doing it for your own good. 

If you can learn to let go of all your resentment and hate then you will free yourself from the living hell you're putting yourself through. 

Constantly, winding yourself up over something or someone that has upset you can and often does escalate itself into a bigger problem.

It's bad enough when someone has caused you upset once, but for your own sake release it, otherwise you will allow that person or persons to carry on hurting you over and over again indefinably. 

Life is too short and precious to hold a grudge, resentment leads to tension and tension prompts you to seek revenge. 

Letting go of something does not mean you are excusing them for what they have done it just means you are freeing yourself from the pain. 

Walking away from an argument before it gets out of control is hard, but it is the wise thing to do because there are never any winners in an argument, in some relationship heated arguments the damage can be irreversible, yet if one person had the strength and wisdom to walk away the relationship would have been saved.  

If you cannot avoid confrontation, there are several outcomes which can happen, we may react with anger to the person or persons involved and then forget about after we have calmed down. 

We might, however, start to resent them afterwards, which can lead to bitterness and hatred which we can lead to future confrontations.  

Or we may do nothing and then dwell on the situation later. If we do nothing this can cause us to start to over analyze what happened, we can then become annoyed with ourselves because we consider ourselves as being weak for not standing up to the person. 

This can cause us to bottle up our emotions, we might keep returning to the memory and reliving it from every conceivable angle or we might think about seeking revenge. You cannot step out of the anger state if you stay focused on the thing that has upset you.

When you feel like someone has done, you an injustice and sometimes if you have been treated badly it can build up to inner hatred and resentment which can be hard to let go. 

11) Take control of your feelings and actions

To help you do this you first have to is either deal with the person or situation that has annoyed you or accept the situation and then let the matter go, just release it and refuse to be drawn into an inner conflation with yourself.

Sometimes no matter how calm you might be something or someone will annoy you or upset you, the good thing if you're feeling calm at the time you will handle the situation a lot better that you would if you were stressed or angry and your response will be less 

If you're finding yourself responding to everyday stressors such as, traffic jams, being stuck in a queue, people cutting you up in the car and so on then you need to change your attitude and also change the way you respond. 

Reacting badly to things that are not in your control is not going to help you because once you make a habit of reacting angrily to everything little thing and everyone, then you will be handing over all your power and control too the situation or person.

Once you have calmed down either try and resolve your issues in a sensible manner or let the matter go for your own benefit. Avoid falling into the trap of allowing your ego and pride to transform you into a angry state just to prove a point.

Having a good massage can relax the body and you can buy some good electrical home massage devises, also adopting an upright, but relaxed, aligned and balanced posture will reduce your stress and tension. 

When people are angry, they tend to pull their shoulders back and stick out their chests which makes them more aggressive, so if you're noticing yourself doing this, release the tension and allow your body to relax. 

Keep reminding yourself that you need to remain calm when you are about to face a stressful or difficult situation or person, before you head into a stressful situation do some slow deep breaths, affirm to yourself, " my goal is to be calm and assertive."

Each morning as you wake start the day of by telling yourself 

" Today I am not going to let anything or anybody upset me, I choose to be calm and relaxed."

12) Only Review A Situation When You Feel Calm

Sometimes we can misinterpret a scenario and get it wrong, our anger is based on our own personal laws and perspectives based on how we perceive a situation. 

Sometimes we either have to change our perceptions or view things from the other person's point of view. 

The moment you lose control is the moment you hand over all your power to the other person, they will then be in complete control of you and how you feel. 

If you are always getting angry, you need to take a look at things from the other person's perspective, so before you tackle a situation, try and make sure you're calm so you can take a look at both sides of the argument.

Remember, just because you think you're right does not make you right or your actions justified. If you keep getting angry with people than you will push your friends away. 

Sometimes we have to examine our own beliefs and take a look at our own actions and circumstances instead of blaming everybody else for how we're feeling. 

It is far to easy to blame everyone else rather that consider the fact that we could be at least partly to blame. We are all human and we all make mistakes so before you lash out at someone else bare in mind that whatever they did they probably did not mean to do it.

You need to try to avoid that initial explosive response so you can prevent the strong emotional arousal. 

Because it is smarter to be able to stay calm and control plus you will find yourself more able to deal with challenging situations much more easily when you are calm but assertive. 

Some other good self help techniques available that can help you to manage your anger by teaching your mind and body to react differently are NLP or hypnosis. 

Both these techniques can be a good way of changing how your state and how you respond in the future. 

Other powerful method for learning to let go of the emotional triggers is emotional freedom techniques  or thought field therapy.  

13) Keep An Anger Diary

Keep and anger diary and after every time you reacted angrily or aggressively to a person or situation write down what happened, how you could have handled things differently or what you could have done to avoid or prevent the angry reaction.

Also write down what measure you employed to try and manage your anger such as, pausing for a minute and counting to ten, walking away from the confrontation or taking some slow deep breaths. After each situation, ask yourself or write down what you learned and what mistakes you made.

14) Learn How To Express Yourself

If you are getting angry all the time, then you may need to learn how to express yourself a bit more. Don't attempt to express yourself when you're still feeling angry, go and calm yourself down, then express yourself in a more controlled manner.

Never try to suppress your emotions, if your angry fins somewhere where quiet and have a good shout and scream or punch a cushion or pillow. 

You may need to search deep inside yourself to see if you can uncover any other reasons for your anger.

Your anger can be a by-product of another problem so it may pay you to learn how to focus on the solution rather than beating yourself up over your problem. Your anger maybe a result from some of the people that you mix with or work with.

If certain people are causing you to respond angrily then it may pay you to avoid those people if you can't avoid them then wise up to them and don't let them wind you up all the time.

Writing is a good way to express yourself, so if there is a particular topic or thing that annoys you and you feel passionate about it make your voice be heard.

Join a discussion group or a forum or write some comments on a website or blog that deals with the kind of things that annoy you or you can start your own blog or make a you tube video.

15) Try not to be perfect

Trying to be perfect can lead to feelings of anger and frustration, of course you want to be and do your best but we live in an imperfect world so striving for perfection all the time causes more stress and anger.

If you make a mistake laugh or shrug it off, learn from it and move on. Often people get annoyed when they are not reaching the standards or they are not getting the results that they expect. 

It can also cause people to get angry when other people are not conforming to the  standards they expect or they have a different view point or different beliefs to them.

Everybody is different and everybody has their own opinions, idea's and beliefs. Some people like to live their lives differently to others so as long as they are not crossing your boundaries then sometimes we have to make allowances for this. 

Sometimes things go wrong and if your doing something like a task or even a hobby and everything keeps going wrong, instead of getting more and more annoyed and wound up. 

Stop what you're doing and take a good relaxing break or if you're having a really bad day leave what you're doing if you can and start again another day when you're feeling calm.

16) Try not to get emotionally involved with the world around you 

There is a lot of bad stuff going on in the world around us and although if there is something that you feel strongly about regarding what's going on in the world or in your country or your community then have your say or do what you can to help out.

However, you cannot solve all the worlds problems by yourself and spending all your time watching, reading and listening to all the bad stuff that is taking place can constantly keep you stuck in an angry place and it can all get a bit emotionally draining and overwhelming.

Although some things have to be taken seriously try to have more fun and enjoyment because when you're trying to fight life, you, the system and everything else, then you're going to eventually burn yourself out.

Try not to take yourself and life too seriously all of the time because a little less hate would go a long way to end all the tension and troubles in the world.  

17) Learn To Stick Up For Yourself

If you have anger issues it can be a sign of of driven by insecurity in some area's of your life. Fear is one of the strongest things that drives anger.

It could also be a sign that you feel that you need to stand up or stick up for yourself with certain people, just aim to be calmer and more assertive.

Rather that getting too angry, and make an effort to get your viewpoint over or stand up for what you believe, without all the rage.

18) Burn Off All The Anger And Adrenaline

Anger is an emotional and physical state, so if you're stuck in an angry physical state, then do some form of exercising or physical activity.

Because your first priority is to change your state so you can return your mind and body back to a state of calm and inner peace, then once you're calm you need to work on staying calm and controlled.

Hit the gym and have a good workout or go for a long walk, because if you do not burn off the excessive energy then all that energy will remain in your body and you will remain in a tense and angry state.

Facts About Anger, Causes And Solutions

Anger should be your last resort

There is nothing wrong with a bit of anger so long as it is controlled and justified, because a little bit of it can motivate you and help you to stand up for yourself.

There is nothing wrong with a bit of anger so long as it is controlled and justified, because a little bit of it can motivate you and help you to stand up for yourself.

If you're feeling a bit down, vulnerable or powerless a small degree of anger can also help to take you out of the state of feeling helpless.

Having said that, anger is a very strong and intense emotion that can be bad for your health (especially if you have a weak heart) bad for your life, your well-being and for others close to you. 

If people could only see how bad and foolish they look when they're in a rage, then they would do something about it, and the thing to be aware of, nobody likes frequently angry person and nobody wants to be around them.

If you have anger issues then you need to take control over your anger thoughts and your emotional reactions and outburst, because it can soon become a habit and a normal way of reacting to you.

Sometimes you may need to find out what the underlying root cause of your anger is, because it can be an indication that you are feeling frustrated or upset about a specific aspect about you or how your life is going.

Especially if you feel that you're not getting the results or things that you want or other people are not conforming to your idea's and way of living.

It can also happen more if you're feeling overly tired, tense or stressed. Others will use anger to hide their inner feelings of insecurity.

It can also be a reflection of you feel the world or others are treating you, perhaps you are feeling frustrated because you feel that you are more, you deserve more and can be much more.

Even though a small degree of anger, especially when you think that somebody has overstepped stepped your boundaries or violated your rights can help you to stand up for yourself or your beliefs, as a rule, anger can be very toxic and damaging for you.

Sometimes in life we need to accept that we cannot control others or what happens in our outside reality, as others have different opinions and ways of living their life, but we do have complete control of how we choose to react and think.

So in the long term, it would be far better for you to learn how to be calm and assertive, so you could still stick up for yourself or make your point, but you would be able to do it in a more controlled manner. 

Therefore, if you have issues with your temper, then you need to learn how to control and manage your anger instead of it controlling you before it lands you in trouble.

Some people use anger as a form of control and power, to help them get their own way or what they want, but it can cost you your friends, your relationship and even cause you to end up in court. 

Anger will push you into confrontation and even drive you to seek revenge if you allow those angry thoughts and emotions to dominate your actions and behaviours.

When you're angry, you don't think or act rationally and when the strong emotion takes over you it will prevent you from seeing the consequences of your actions.

When we're angry, we act stupid and we are unaware of the possible danger or risks that could be imposed on ourselves or even the damage and hurt we can do to others or our physical possessions and things. 

The thing with anger is, the more you allow it to get out of control and dominant you, the worse it gets and things can become bad very fast. 

Generally speaking, anger will usually simmer for a period before you explode, and there is usually a build up period.

This is your chance to do things differently and break the pattern, because you need to step in and take control of your feelings and emotions before you get to boiling point.

One of the secrets to managing your anger is to be aware of the underlying causes and situations that trigger your angry responses so you can learn how to prevent it from happening before it has a chance to manifest.

Although you might feel that releasing your anger helps you to feel better, the truth is, you have still allowed yourself to get wound up and that is still bad for your health and your popularity.

From a health perspective too much anger, whether you let it out or bottle it up or release it, is still bad for you. 

The secret to overcoming your anger is to try and not to get angry in the first place, 

Because once your anger has gathered momentum it has already gone too far and once the momentum has already begun, your attempts to turn it around will have little effect.

You're only hurting yourself

The thing with anger is, although you can temporary hurt or upset other people's feelings in the long term if you're getting mad all the time, then the only real person it is going to ever really hurt and effect badly, is you.

Anger is a terrible state to be in and it will rob you're of all your power and control not to mention all the trouble it can push you into and all the friends and loved ones you can lose because of it.

 "Anger is nothing more than an outward expression of hurt, fear and frustration "Dr Phil.

The emotion associated with anger is so strong it makes us behave out of character, it keeps our attention locked into defensive, fight and aggressive mode.

In this physical state of intense emotion and energy we act before we have time to think things through logically.

When you're angry, you become the only one who is in the right and as far as everybody else is concerned their opinion does not count or matter.

Anger blocks out your rational mind, it can make you act aggressively and confrontational, this can cause you to react aggressively first before you have time to try and discuss or resolve the problem in a sensible manner. 

This can result in you doing things that later when you have calmed down you end up deeply regretting. 

When you're wound up or you're in a state of rage you tend to look for trouble and confrontations or you overreact to situations, anger shuts off all our ability to reason or analyze the situation. 

The emotion is so overwhelming during this state we have no fear, anger makes us courageous, brave and dominate, but there is usually a price to pay afterwards.

Angry people are nice people when they are calm and at peace, and nice people are not very nice when they are angry.

It is no point in being sorry afterwards, because it is often too late once the damage is done, this is why the best way to treat anger is to catch it before it goes too far.. 

When we're angry, we do and say things that we would normally not say, the trouble is, this makes us hurt those that are close to us.

Some of the causes of anger

It can be hard to pinpoint everybody's source of anger as each and everybody has their own personal reasons and triggers.

Your anger may stem from your childhood or it can be the after effect of a bad experience or perhaps you may feel that you are just standing up for your rights.

Some causes of anger are: 

  • You believe that things should be done in a certain way 
  • You're trying to satisfy your ego or pride 
  • Living up to your reputation or self image
  • When you think somebody as violated or stepped over your boundaries 
  • Feelings of failure
Sometimes anger can be an instantaneous reaction to a sudden provoking or annoying person or situation, but sometimes it can be a more steady build up of events and pressure, especially if you're going through a tough time in your life or if you have a lot of personal problems.   

If you grew up in a situation or society where anger and hatred were common then this can have an effect on you. In some cases the you root cause could be because you were abused or bullied or you were conditioned to hate or resent other groups or cultures.

Sometimes it can be an over-spill of low self esteem, you may have a negative self image of yourself or perhaps deep down you're more angry with yourself than what is happening in the world around you.

Some anger is caused by things and triggers that happen in your environment, everybody has their own trigger points which usually occur when you have been offended or someone has  overstepped the mark.

If people don't live up to or comply with our expectation, values, standards, beliefs or rules then that can provoke an angry outburst. We can also respond angrily to other people's behaviour, opinions and actions.

Other triggers can be when we think someone is preventing our chances of success or somebody puts your safety at risk. 

One of the biggest causes is, when you think your boundaries have been crossed or violated or someone has caused you a perceived injustice.

If we feel threatened or even if we have what we see as a threat to our ego, then this can raise our anger levels as well as when things don't seem to be working out for us.

Stress is another trigger that can lead to anger, especially lets say you're running late for work or an engagement and something has slowed down your journey so it always pays to allow plenty of time for journey's.

Other causes that may contribute to anger are 

  • Being overly tired or run down 
  • Not feeling well or being in some form of pain 
  • Having too many stimulants like too much sugar, alcohol and caffeine. 
  • If you are intolerant to certain foods, then this can cause mood swings and some research has suggested that trans fats have been linked to higher levels of aggression. 
Other reports have suggested that low blood sugar levels and feeling hungry may contribute to higher levels of anger.

Other things that can trigger anger are, we get more annoyed with ourselves because we think we lacking in some areas of our lives, say someone says something hurtful and personal to us.

It is not just the comment that annoys but the fact we believe it to be true and we seem powerless to change what we don't like about ourselves.

Another example of us being more annoyed with ourselves is, again say somebody does something bad to us or they say a nasty remark and we don't handle it very well at the time.

This can make us mad with ourselves because we think we came across as weak or we did not stick up for ourselves.

Jealousy is another root cause of anger, but there should be no need for you to be jealous about anybody.

Although random strangers can cause you to react angrily, most of the time it is the people we live with, mix with or work with that causes the most anger.

This is mainly because we cannot always avoid them because they are part of our life and we tend to spend more time with them, especially work colleagues or loved ones especially with the ones that hurt us who we really care about.

Anger can cause you to blame everything and everyone for why you feel angry.

The Program That Will Teach You Ways To Stop Being Angry

Although you cannot always control everything, every annoying person and every situation that happens in your environment, but you can control the way you choose to respond to them.

If you want to get over your anger then you have to take full responsibility and although we like to blame everything, society and everyone sometimes we have to take a good look out ourselves and start to dig into the reasons why we get so angry and then take action to stop the anger at it's root source.

You cannot experience a fulfilling and successful life and you will never have long term happiness and inner peace if you're always angry because they are two very different contrasting energies and like attracts like.

You can be free of your anger issues and life without anger is a whole lot better for you personally, your health, your well-being and for your family and friends without it.

You may have been suffering with anger issues for so long now that you've forgotten how good life can be, living without anger and how great it feels to experience inner peace and calm.

Once you manage to deal with your anger you will be free to channel your energy, talents onto something that is going to benefit you and help you unlock your real skills and creativity that have been laying dormant inside of you.

This course below will help you maintain a more calm and controlled balance outlook and emotional response preventing those once impulse damaging responses, thus reducing your stress levels your blood pressure while at the same time it will also stop your anger at the source.

This is a comprehensive anger management program created by a real person (watch the video if you have any doubts) who will help you deal with your anger and those outbursts of rage. 


Finding Happiness 

Tap into your true spiritual happiness

Manage Your Anger

Learn how to deal with the root cause  of your anger

Reduce Your Stress

Start to  lower your stress levels and return back to inner peace

Positive Thinking

Enjoy the many health benefits of positive thinking 

 Meditation For Stress

Nearly all the most successful people relax for  twenty minutes a day 

Manage Anxious Thoughts

Stop fighting with your thoughts and learn how to quieten them

Overcoming Fear

Wise up to fear and learn how to tame and outsmart the beast

 Dealing With Worry

Worrying can effect your health and quality of life

Be More Successful

Tips on how to become more successful in your life

End Panic Attacks

Help to end panic attacks and general anxiety disorder

The Power Of Hypnosis

Use the power of hypnosis to tap into the software of your mind

New Year's Resolutions

Out with the old and in with the new ideal and more happier you