How To Cultivate Happiness From Within So You Can Wake Up Feeling Good Each Day?

Those who rely on external situations, lifestyles, people or possessions to make them happy or to make them feel good, may experience a temporary boost of happiness.

But, as a general rule, their happiness won't last for very long and they will soon slip back to their normal unhappier default settings and levels of happiness.

What will happen then is, they will start to look for the next thing, to buy, do or have, in the hope it will make them feel happy once again, and this pattern of behavior, keeps on being repeating.

The conclusion, that we can draw from this, has to be:

External things, situations and possessions, are great, but you cannot depend on external things, situations and even other people, to supply you with the long lasting happiness that you desire.

The best way to feel happy, nearly all of the time is to make feeling happy and feeling good, your natural default settings.

Happiness, is not just a state of mind, because real happiness and feel good all of the time, also requires having a positive physiology.

Once you have managed to achieve a relaxed and positive physiology and a calm and positive state of mind, where you grounded in the peace of the now.

You can then bypass all those artificial requirements and material possessions.

Because, imagine, how much better your life would be, if you could be happy without having to rely on any external things, other people or situations as being a condition of your happiness.

So you could reach a natural state of being, that would consistently and effortlessly make you feel happy for without having a real reason?

With a change in your attitude and perceptions and a bit of work and effort, it is possible to maintain a free flowing state of balance and harmony as well as rewiring your mind to focus on feeling good about yourself.

Until you reach a point, where happiness becomes your natural and normal, default state of being.

Because the most important thing for you is for you is to focus on how you can feel good about yourself and how you can accept yourself and feel comfortable in your own skin.

Without trying to impress, be like or care about what others have or may think. 

If you're not happy, then dig deep into yourself. 

Ask, yourself.

What do you think it is, that is making you feel unhappy, what do you think is holding you back from feel good?

What kind of things are you saying to yourself that are making you feel unhappy, sad or anxious?

Then start to focu and work on feel better and feeling happy.

Because, when you learn how to accept what is and let go of whatever it is that is bothering you, then you can start to feel happy within, regardless of what is going on externally.

If you want to change the way you feel and if you want to better your life on the outside.

Then this first step is to accept yourself, take good care of yourself and start to like and believe in yourself.

Because, if you feel good within yourself and you feel good about yourself internally, then you will start to reflect this externally, in many positive and rewarding ways.  

As you progress, what you will find out is, you internal state of being will improve and things will get better externally and you will be in a much better position to then cherish and enjoy all that is good externally.

Even during those times of hardship, struggle, adversity and setbacks, you can still feel good, positive and optimistic.

There maybe times when you feel down, disappointed, unhappy and fed up, but because you will have raised your happiness benchmark.

What you will find is:

You will bounce back quickly and you follow your new happiness and feel good principles and practices, you will soon be feel at your very best again. 

If you can work on being happy without a reason, then everything external becomes a bonus, for you to enjoy, savour and cherish, each and every moment.

Happiness Now

When you are feeling good and your spirits are high the universe is yours; you will switch over to the higher vibrational good feeling frequencies, where you become infinite possibilities and limitless potential.

In this feeling good energetic state of being, you will escape the victim mentality and your normal, negative and everyday, monkey mind and the world will start to treat you better. 

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Happiness is your divine right

You have not got to chase happiness, because real happiness already exists within all of us and it has already been within you all the time, since the day you were born

It has just got overshadowed and lost beneath

  • Your negative thought patterns, limiting beliefs 
  • You negative experiences, bad memories and conditioning
  • Your state of being such as: Stress and negative emotions
  • Tension in your mind and body
  • Your perceptions and your attitude
  • Your ego
  • Lack of motivation 
  • Job satisfaction
  • Learned emotional responses
There is no point in just waking up each morning and hoping that you're going to feel happy or you're going to wake up in a good feeling mood.

Because the chance are:

If you go to bed feeling stressed, tense and negative and you go to sleep carrying all your emotional baggage and worries, then you're going to wake up feeling pretty bad and negative.

Happy people do not leave how they feel to chance: 

  • They eliminate the bad stuff and replace it with the good stuff 
  • They take good care of themselves  
  • They follow positive daily feel good rituals and strategies 
  • They create positive habits 
  • They get plenty of relaxation 
  • They keep active
  • They set goals
  • They apply themselves to focusing and doing something that they really feel passionate about
Having something positive or meaningful to focus on, making the most of your creativity or talents or really applying yourself to a goal, project, hobby or ambition.

Can supply you and your life, with a real sense of satisfaction achievement and happiness, instead of following and doing, what everybody else does.

When you put all your energy and focus onto doing something that is going to challenge you, as well as cultivativating and developing, your knowledge, skill levels and your abilities.

Then this can help you to take your mind off all the negative stuff and the more you focus on the things that your feel your supposed to and want to be doing, the more you will produce those good feelings.

As you start to make progress and you begin to see positive results, this can make you feel happier.

Happiness without a reason

What if you could be happy, without needing a real reason to be happy or without having any material or physical requirements or conditions, attached to it.

Where you could make your own eternal happiness, just be following a few simple guidelines and basic principles that you were actually born with.

Because. All babies are born happy and they all have high levels of self esteem and you cannot have the one without the other.

This means. That you don't build your self esteem or you have to look to find ways to make yourself happy.

You lose your self esteem and you lose your happiness. 

Through you society conditioning, your negative self talk and your negative experiences.

To a degree. 

Happiness is very much an individual things with a few added ingredients that need to be attached to it.

Living life on your terms, doing the things you like and enjoy doing. Accepting and being yourself. Is a good place to start.

Some people perceive happiness as the type of people who always seem to be happy and laughing and jockey on the outside.

Some think happiness comes with being wealthy, successful and having lots of expensive material things and possession.

But none of these guarantees long term happiness. 

If you allow your happiness to depend on others or outside physical things. Then you're going about things the wrong way around.

just because some people may appear to be happy on the outside or they seem to have it all.

This does not necessarily mean that they're happy, calm and at peace with themselves and this world, on the inside.

Real happiness has to be cultivated from within.

If you put conditions on your happiness, then your conditions will determine your levels of happiness.

But if you can learn to be happy without a reason or without any external conditions. 

Then your inner happiness will start to determine your external circumstances for the better.

The basic ingredients for true, lasting happiness

If you're unhappy, then you're not going to reach the levels that you want.

If you are in a dark place at the moment.

Accept that you need help and seek help.

Real happiness should not be tied to any physical conditions because real happiness has to be cultivated and created from within.

Again. There is nothing wrong with have your desires, having nice things and visiting nice places and having fun.

But if you rely on too many external things to determine your happiness then that is called conditional happiness and it will only be temporary.

The basic needs of happiness are

  1. Shelter and warmth
  2. Food, water and good nutrition
  3. Inner balance and harmony
  4. Rest and relaxation
  5. Keeping active
  6. Good relationships
  7. Laughter and smiling
Of course you want to pursue your goals and interests, But, the truth is. You need very little to feel calm and happy.

If you can be happy without a reason or any external conditions. Then, you will win at life.

Life can be tough, cruel and challenging at times.

The secret is to try to feel good, no matter what.

Accept what is and what has happened and tell your mind stories the way you want you and your life to be.

Sometimes when life is getting you down. You just have to give up, with whatever you're fighting and resisting.

Accept what is or what has happened. Let it be, let it go and move on to your next experience.

Try to 

  • Feel good, no matter what
  • Stay optimistic, no matter what
  • Be positive, no matter what
  • Never given, no matter what
Sometimes life can bring you down or you worry a lot because you have lost something that you feel you cannot get back or you are not getting the results that you want. 

Or maybe what you want seems to require so much of your time, attention and effort.

Or you feel that you have just too many other demands put on you or you have to many other things to do and not enough time to fit everything in, to do the things that matters the most to you.

When times are tough, you feel you're in a dark place or the world seems against you.

Keep telling yourself

  • I am in charge of my life and my destiny
  • I am in control over how I feel
  • I am in charge of what comes to me
  • Everything will workout for me
  • I'll figure it out
  • Good things are coming to me
Life will always workout for you, if you trust, believe and you go with the flow.

There is nothing for you to worry about or feel negative about.

Your worry and negative thoughts are nothing more than your past conditioning and your old patterns of thinking playing out in your mind over and over again.

But your thoughts, attitude and perceptions can and should be changed.

You cannot find happiness if you search for happiness. 

But you can create the life of your desires if you learn how to cultivate inner happiness first.

You don't need to know how you're going to figure things out or how you're going to get the life you desires.

Just keep focused on your positive intentions, do the things that you enjoy and take action when necessary.

  • If you can develop a kind of couldn't care less attitude, in a good way 
  • If you can show gratetude, even in times of adversity
  • If you can stay positive and happy despite everything seeming to go wrong on the outside.
And you allow nothing, no situation or nobody to take away your happiness and inner peace and balance.

You will feel great find you will grow, you will become unstopable and nothing will be able to get in your way.

Getting back to the basic ingredients of life

Natural living and being is all you really need to be happy.

There is nothing wrong with wanting to live the best life and setting yourself goals.

Having a goal, following your purpose, having a purpose, giving your life a meaning and keep yourself occupied can benefit you in many ways.

We all need interests, hobbies, challenges to overcome, fun things to do and good healthy relationships as it is part of satiisfying our emotional needs.

But it is often the small things in life and the things that we overlook or take for granted that matter the most.

Our natural way of being and living is the best source of inner happiness.

If you take a look at the wild animals, they live a basic and natural life

  • They only eat when they need to
  • They rest when they feel tired
  • They only drink water
  • They eat their natural diet
  • They keep active but they don't overdo it
  • They keep themselves in perfect shape
  • After a dangerous escape, they don't dwell on it, they just return back to the now
If you observe the young children

  1. They all play with each other and get on, regardless of creed, color or religious faith
  2. They carry no hate, resentment or bitterness to themselves or others
  3. They are keen to learn
  4. They play, rest and they have fun and enjoyment
  5. They need very little to keep them happy
  6. They never give up or lose faith when they are attempting a new challenge or learning a new skill and they keep going until the master it. Then they celebrate their achievement
  7. They focus on the now
  8. They have very little fear
  9. The use their imagination in a positive and creative way. Unlike adults who misuse their imagination or trust it too much
  10. They know what they want and they focus on what we want
We should all observe and learn a lesson from the children as they can teach us how we should be living our lives and they know what we have forgotten.

The little children know that life is an adventure, but they also know that we are supposed to have fun, and lots of it.

As far as the young children are concerened. Fun and play. come first.

They don't spend all their day worrying and having a bit of fun now and again. 

They have lots of fun and enjoyment. 

They don't wait to the weekend, to have a bit of fun. They, don't have a bit of enjoyment and then go long periods. without any fun and enjoyment.

They have fun, and more fun and even more fun.

Little children don't take themselves to serious and they don't take life to serious.

When you were born. You were happy and your body was in the higher vibrational energies.

But as we move into the not so much fun. Adult world.

Bit by bit, problem by problem, experience by experience.

We enter the low vibrational energies.

Children use their imagination in positive and splendid ways.

They even enjoy and look forward to the fun things that there going to have.

Children get very excited and love the think about the fun things that they're going to do.

The more fun the children have and the more excited they get about the fun times ahead and all the things they want.

Guess what? The more the universe delivers them more fun things and more of the things that they want.

Children know how to get what they want and they know how to create fun and attract more fun times and situations.

Virtually everything that a young child does. They turn it into a fun occassion, with plenty of laughter, play and enjoyment.

So where does all the fun and enjoyment go?

  • The moment we start to take life and ourselves to seriously
  • The moment we stop doing the things that we enjoy
  • The moment we spend more time worrying and less time thinking about having fun or doing the things we want
  • The moment we hand over our happiness to lifes circumstances
  • The moment you conform to the norm
If you're struggling right now our you're having a hard time.

Give up the fight.

Whatever it is that is bothering you. Let it go.

It just isn't worth it.

Plan to have more fun and enjoyment.

Although some of the things we do change and we take on more responsibilty.

Stick to the young children's philoshphy of having more fun and not caring to much.

Put the satisfaction back into your life and make your life interesting, fulfilling and fun.

Love is the most powerful of all the emotions

Learn to love more and criticise and hate less. Including yourself and the way you treat yourself.

  • You are your own personal coach
  • You create your life
  • You are your own health and fitness guru
  • You are your, past, present and future
  • Your inner and intuition, always knows whats best for you
  • You respond to what you tell yourself, so make your self talk positive and encouraging
  • You are in control of your thoughts, attitude and feelings
  • You are your biggest judge and critic. End any negative criticism straight away
  • You are you own worst enemy. You are your best friend, best motivator and best source of inspiration
  • You have the power to empower or disempower yourself
  • You can knock yourself down or you can lift yourself up
You are the person that you will talk to the most and you are the person you will spend the most time with.

Therefore it make sense to 

  • Be nice to yourself
  • Be yourself and continue to strive to be the very best you
  • Accept yourself, for who you are, faults included
  • Talk nicely to yourself
  • Like an love yourself, unconditionally
Showing gratitude will help to change your mood.

Showing love is even more powerful.

This doesn't have to just be the love between two people.

  • Love the birds
  • Love the flowers and the trees
  • Love the comfort of your bed
  • Love the things you have
  • Love your car
  • Love your home
  • Love the air that you breathe
  • Love your pet
Just find anything to show love for and make this a daily habit. Because it is the feeling that you're searching for.

Think yourself happy

Before you can find blissful and long lasting happiness.

It is important to free yourself or change all the thoghts and perceptions that are making you feel unhappy or negative.

Learning how to control your emotions and overcome your fears and anxiety is essential if you want to feel good and be happy.

Taking charge of your thinking is also a key to feeling better.

Thinking changes your physiolgy, bilogy and your energetic energy frequencies.

Positive thinking is powerful and it will empower you tremendously and make you feel good as well as help inspire and motivate you to achieve your goals and create a better life.

Negative thinking is equally as powerful as positive thinking but in the wrong way as it will disempower you tremendously, negatively impact your behaviors and make you feel unhappy and sad.

Negative or pessimistic thinking will also affect your biology and your physical and emotional state.

Negative thinking is not just bad for your health and well-being and putting you in a bad feeling mood. It will also take you in the opposite direction to where you want to go.

If you believe that nothing good will happen to you. You will create negative situations in your life.

If you believe that bad things will happen to you or bad things always happen to you. They probably will.

As it is estimated that 70% of our thoughts are negative. Then we have to be aware and watch out for, what we are thinking. If we want to change our biology and our emotional state.

If our thoughts did not matter then it wouldn't be a thing that we need to monitor and change.

But as our thoughts affect our life and our physiology, mood and biology. Then it is essential that you take control of your mind.

We need to change our negative thought patterns to positive or better feeling ones.

Another thing that lowers our self esteem and happiness is our inner self talk.

If you want to be happy. Then you have to be very careful what you believe and what you tell yourself.

The placebo affect has demonstrated the power of our thoughts. If you put the idea into somebodies mind that a pill that was nothing more than pill made of sugar would make them happy.

And they bought into the placebo affect that this happy pill was a real pill that would boost their mood. Then the belief they had about that pill, would make them feel happy.

Constructive thinking is helpful as it will help you to create, overcome challenges and help you to solve problems.

How you react to situation, your experiences or your thoughts and imagings can also affect how you feel.

Negative thoughts can only hurt you if you react to them and believe them.

When negativity or adversity strikes.

Do not immediately try to change the feelings, straight away.

Feel the feelings.

You cannot always, anticipate things going wrong.

But when they do.

You can learn something and vow to yourself that.

Its not going to happen again.

It does not matter how bad your day has been.

Because tomorrow always offers you chance for you to dust yourself down and start again.

The golden rule is to leave all your emotional baggage behind you.

Happiness and the body

A stress free and tension free body means a happy and feel good body.

There is much written about the mind and happiness.

But you cannot feel good if your body is tense, stressed or out of balance and harmony.

When the bodies energy is out of balance and disharmony. We feel bad. 

When our bodies are fatigued, lacking the essential nutrients.

Or we enter a consistent. 

Negative and physical, psychological and emotional states where we our body is consistently out of balance.

It can lead to feelings of depression and unhappiness. Which can lead to unpleasant feelings and illnessess.

When you relying on physical things or you react negatively to external events or circumstances or the sometimes difficult challenges of life. 

Can throw your body out of balance and harmony.

Life can be tough and cruel at times, especially

  • When things are going wrong for you
  • When you have lost something or someone that you love
  • When you have given it your all, but life still knocks you to the ground, again and again
  • When you have lost control over your feelings and emotions
  • When you're not getting the results that you want
  • When your mind seems like your biggest enemy
  • When adversity, strikes again
  • When you feel trapped in a dark and lonely place
  • When your life seems in crisis
All the knock backs and failures of life. 

All the emotional pain and suffering and all your negative experiences can throw your mind and body out of balance and harmony and create bad memories.

Unhappiness and feeling negative can then become a pattern of behavior and if you choose to and it is always a choice.

You can hold onto those wortheless negative patterns and behaviors that will keep you feeling unhappy and uncomfortable.

Or you can let them go and create better feeling patterns.

  • You can choose to be a lamb or a lion
  • You can be brave or a coward
  • You can be happy or sad
  • You can either love yourself or hate yourself
There is always a positive choice or a negative choice.

One will take you in a positive direction and one will take you in a positive direction and one will make you feel good and the other will diminsih you and make you sink into those low feeling emotions.

So be careful, which one you choose.

Because you can plan in your mind to be unhappy and you can plan in your mind to feel happy and be successful.

Slouching and allowing your body to collapse can lead to low feelings and thoughts of insecurity.

Tensing or stiffening your body. Will make you feel uncomfortable, which can eventually lead to low feeling emotions.  

They say

"Laughter is the best medicine".

Laughter raises your vibration helping to take you out of those low feeling vibrational states.

Laughter also helps us to provide longer ehalations. Helping us to rid toxins and rid the lungs of stale air.

This helps to keep the lungs healthy and helps to promote the flow of our essential life force energy. 

Which improves circulation and helps enrich the blood and muscles with increased supplies of oxygen.

Stress and tension restrict the blood flow, cause harmful toxins in the body.

Happiness and success is all about consistently following daily positive rituals.

As the famous song goes.

"When your smiling, the whole world smiles with you"

Our expressions can change our mood.

When we frown, it changes our physiology.

When we smile.

We start to feel good and we start to feel safe.

Looking after your body is a necessity for feeling good.

Your body requires good healthy living and essential vitamins in order for it to function efficiently.

Some foods can give your body a boost, others can affect how you feel.

The mineral magnesium is called the calming mineral.

Foods that are rich in omega 3 fats are essential for good health and well-being.

When our body is relaxed and we are standing and sitting with good balance and alignment. Our muscles will relax more and you will feel that sweet flow like feeling.

You cannot feel happy and confident if you are experiencing tension in your mind and body. The same applies with stress.

Keeping active and moving helps to keep your body loose and flexible.

Our bodies are mainly made of water. Therefore it is important to stay hydrated.

People think relaxation is a luxurt thing or a thing you do to treat yourself.

The truth is. 

Relaxation is a necessity that allows your body a chance to rest and restore itself. 

It is also a great way to calm your mind and reduce any harmful stress and negative emotions.

Mental or physical exaustion will rob your body of it's vital minerals and vitamins. It will also leave you feeling fatigued and low.

Learning how to reduce your stress, control your feelings and emotions, stand and sit with the least amount of tension and making sure you stay fit and active.

Will trump over any other substances or things that people use or do to try and make them feel good.

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Change your perceptions

Your happiness can change just by changing your perceptions and attitude. 

You can have a situation where two people can be in the same situation yet their perceptions about the situation and their levels of happiness can be at opposite ends of the scale.

This points to the fact that true long term happiness depends on how you perceive a situation and how you react to circumstances and events and it is a reflection of your inner world and self talk. 

Feeling good, however, is not all about your mind, it also depends on your physiology and maintaining a healthy and balanced body and lifestyle.

Happy people also have bad things happen to them, they too go through difficult and challenging times but they have learned how to master their thoughts and emotions.

The difference between happy and unhappy people is how you react to the situation, how quickly you bounce back and pick yourself up, plus how long you allow what previously happened or what could happen to affect you.

Happy people also don't care about what others think or say about them. When you allow the words and opinions of others to have a negative influence and effect, then it can drain your energy and lower your self esteem.

Although there are always some exceptions to the rule and sometimes we all have to face sad situations.

Try to look for a positive in nearly all situations, because how you feel and the life that you experience will largely depend, on how you perceive a situation and how much meaning and focus you give too it.

What Science Has To Say About Happiness

Research has proven that happy people generally live longer, they have better relationships and things generally go well for them, so with this in mind it is your utmost priority to make your happiness your number one dominate intention above everything else.

The latest scientific research about happiness states that our levels of happiness are not fixed, so the good news is that with a bit of effort and you can soon increase your levels of happiness.

Research also suggests that contradictory to what some people think your happiness levels actually increase as you get older and wiser. 

People who are consistently happy do not think or give any attention about things that they know will make them feel unhappy

Follow These 21 Tips To Boost Your Happiness

When were talking about happiness were not talking about laughing all the time or that joyous fun type of happiness or being too cheesy because that can be too hard to sustain.

Of course your goal should be is of course aim to have more fun, enjoyment and laugh and smile, more and there is always something you can find to smile or laugh about.

Bur what you should be working on is your overall background levels of happiness as well as learning to be more content, satisfied, gratreful and at peace with yourself and the world.

1) Do more of the things that you enjoy 

We spend a lot of time trying to please others. But it is just as important to do more of the things that you enjoy and to do things to please you a bit more often.

Do what you like doing and set yourself goals and challenges. But try to enjoy your goals, hobbies and interests.

We all have families, friends and partners to consider. But you also have yourself and your own well-being to consider.

Many people allow their happiness to depend on other people. But nobody or nothing should be a condition of your happiness.

Do things that you love and enjoy rather than doing things because you want more money and the funny thing is when you're happy and you do the things you feel passionate about you will probably make more money anyway.

The real secret to sustained happiness is to learn to become spiritually happy because when you achieve that and you make peace with yourself, then nothing can ever take that kind of inner happiness away from you.

2) Make a choice to be happy

Your first step to feeling good, is to make a decision that you intend to be happy and feeling good needs to become your number one priority and dominant intention, tell yourself that you want to feel good right now, and then you want to carry on feeling better and better. 

It's not about what you have, it's not about material possessions or other people, it's all about you, your needs and how you feel

It is the choices that you make which will decide your happiness. 

Do not put up with a negative mood for too long, if you feel low, then you need to do whatever it takes to increase your happiness. 

This may mean changing what you do and the way you do things, it may mean changing your thoughts and perceptions or just learning how to relax more and do more of the things you love and enjoy doing.

3) Release all your negative thoughts and negative emotions

Happy people don't worry too much about the future and they don't allow their past to control how they feel in the present. 

They are also mindful of the damage of destructive negative thoughts so they can stop being sucked into the vortex of negativity.

If you want to feel good, then you need to let go of the past man, what has happened has happened and for your own sake you have to learn to quickly forgive and let go.

The past is now nothing more than an illusion so try not to keep on digging up or raking over the things that just cause you more pain and suffering.

It's not your situations or circumstances that actually cause you the emotional pain and trauma, what cause all the hurtful emotions and feelings is the thoughts your still having about the situations.

Allowing yourself to keep thinking about what is or what has happened will just keep on making you feel bad, the thing to remember is you can only suffer after the situation has happened if you think about it.

So if something bad has happened, try to accept the situation, release the emotion, then try and learn something and look for the silver lining in the situation, then let it go and focus on a better future and only think about things that don't make you feel bad.

Planning and goal-setting is good to activate some positive and optimistic feelings, but make your goals enjoyable and try not to put too much high expectations on yourself just take things as they come both the good and bad.

Don't take your negative or unwanted thoughts as being the truth, negative thoughts are just an illusion and although the feelings feel real the thoughts are not. 

Dismiss and ignore all negative or unwanted thoughts, let them come into your mind but do not react to them. 

Just tell yourself they are just thoughts and I wish to release them, then let them pass on bye or allow your mind to carry on thinking those anxious thoughts whilst yourself, you can carry on but I an not interested and if you keep doing this your mind will also lose interest in those troublesome thoughts. 

Don't just do things for the sake of doing, do things because you feel passionate about them and to whatever it takes to stay in the present moment.  

4) Show a bit of gratitude and appreciation 

Gratitude is an important ingredient to feel good, just by spending a few minutes being grateful for the things you have can increase your happiness by more than 25% and you can achieve this after only one month. When we're thankful our energy shifts into positive emotions.

Showing gratitude and be grateful for who you are and what you have got can have a profound impact on your state of well-being. Write down or let you know all the things that you are thankful for. 

Every morning state five things you are grateful for no matter how small they appear. 

A research suggests that gratitude and appreciation will improve your emotional state, health and well-being, the more you moan, criticize and complain the more unhappy you will become.

5) Listen or dance to upbeat music everyday 

Listen to music every day, because music is a great way to flip you into a positive feel good and happy energy, music can help you to raise your vibration. 

Try to listen to more upbeat and uplifting music or calm, relaxing music, other good alternative mood boosters are brainwave entrainment which will match your energy in sync with the good feeling sound frequencies.

If you want to further improve your mood and happiness, then put on your favourite uplifting tunes and then spend some time singing and dancing too them, because dancing is a good form of exercise. 

So combine that with the rhythm of the music and you will get double the release of those feel good endorphin's.

Avoid watching too much news, it's all right watching the news so long as you do not allow it to affect your emotional state, other things that will help to make you feel good are, good healthy foods and learning to love and accept yourself more.

6) Laugh and smile more 

Laughing and doing the things you enjoy will also raise your happiness levels, because laughing is well know to increase your vibration, so does smiling regularly, force yourself to laugh more and make a conscious effort to smile for several minutes every now and again.

Your mood will respond to your facial expressions and your physiology, frowning activates a negative mood, whilst smiling boost your happiness. 

Make an effort to watch more comedy programs and comedian video's or show on televisionDo not allow your happiness to depend on other people no matter who they are.

Make an effort to engage in activities that make you feel better, make a list of all the things you enjoy doing it does not have to be big things either. 

Try to look straight in front of you or even look up with your eyes, because looking down can lower your mood. 

Go for a walk, read, watch funny films or comedy shows, spend some quality time with your friends or by yourself, exercise, paint, write or take up photography, meditate or listen to some good feeling music just do some fun or relaxing activities.

7) Quick Mood Booster 

If at any time you notice you're beginning to feel a bit low, find a place where you will not be disturbed for a few minutes, then perform a quick visualizing technique, just take a few deep relaxing breaths and return to a past time or place when you laughed a lot or you felt very happy and at ease. 

Revisit that happy memory in your mind, focus on how good and happy you felt, engage all your senses and use all your senses to make that memory vivid and real, see what you saw, smelt, felt or heard. 

Vividly imagine your surroundings and the people or the things that were around you. Keep focusing on the memory for a few minutes and how happy you felt. 

Experience the laughter and good feelings again, feel the big smile on your face, notice how great you feel, then once you have evoked those good emotions, imagine you're back in your current situations feeling just as good and happy even in the situations that previously made you feel unhappy.

8) Master your emotions

Your happiness will totally depend on you, learning how to master your emotions. Many people struggle to find true inner happiness because they have not learned to become the master of their own thoughts, feelings and emotions.

Everything you do, everything you want is geared around your quest to feel good and to be happy, but sadly many people spend the larger part of their day silently torturing themselves.

We all go through bad times, the difference between happy people and unhappy people is the happy ones know how to quickly bounce back.

Try not to get emotionally engaged or hooked up into bad situations. We all experience difficult times and we all experience a wide range of emotions during our day as our mind flips from one series of thoughts to another.

To control your emotions you need to filter out the thoughts that evoke negative emotions and start to become the detached observer of your thoughts and feelings instead of getting yourself emotionally involved and engaged in anything that makes you feel bad.

9) Accept yourself

Another thing that stifles people's inner happiness is when they refuse to accept themselvesSelf acceptance of ourselves is an important step to finding inner peace and contentment

We all have our own imperfections and flaws, things happen from time to time, so we sometimes just have to accept what's happened or what might happen and let it go. 

Remember that you are a spiritual being as well as physically being and although it is important to look after your body it is equally important to look after your spiritual self.

Let yourself know that on the inside you're a beautiful and a special multi talented person so do not let your eyes or the comments of other people to be your judge. 

Another important step to complete happiness is to stop putting yourself down and begin to start to love and like yourself, each morning stand in front of the mirror and tell yourself a few times that you like yourself.

Start to get to know yourself better and be nice to yourself and learn to enjoy your own company, you will find your inner being will start to reward you with good feeling emotions.

10) Use your body to feel good

Feeling good is necessary if you want to be happy and it's not all about the mind your body posture plays a big role in you good you feel.

These days more and more people are living sedentary lives and spending to much time sitting down which can cause tension in muscles and prolonged periods of sitting can restrict your breathing and compress and restrict the blood flow around your body.

The human body is designed for movement and activity, if you look after your body you will feel better.

Your mind and body are linked and they can both influence each other. If you think stressful thoughts, then your body will tense and if you're tense your body you will have more tense and fearful thoughts.

If you slouch and you allow your head to drop and your shoulders to go rounded then before long you will have more unhappy and negative and insecure thoughts and feelings.

If you're having predominantly negative and sad thoughts, then your body will slump a bit and your head will drop and your shoulders will become to rounded.

If you tense your body and stick your chest out, lift up your chest and pull your shoulders back then you will have tense and threatening related thoughts.

It is important to look adapt a nice upright, but relaxed and poised, aligned and balanced postureavoid a stiff or rigid posture. Try to look ahead with your eyes as much as possible as looking down with your eyes can lower your mood.

11) The importance of your physiology

The two main factors to feeling good are our focus of attention and our physiology. Our cells, chemistry, muscles and organs are all one thing and when they are all working in sync together then we will feel happier and balanced.

Although, what you focus of attention on will have a massive influence on your happiness, when you feel unhappy it is also a physical state.

From a spiritual point of view, your state is energy, from a physical point your state is chemical and physical, but whatever your belief the important thing is you need to keep your body calm, healthy and balanced.

When you're stressed or anxious your body will be flooded with adrenaline and the stress hormone cortisol, which will cause a physical stressful response in your body.

When you're calm and happy, your brain will release good feeling endorphin's and many other neuropeptides that are essential for good mood feelings.

If you want to be happy you need to feel good and although there is a bit more to happiness feeling good is the biggest factor.

Things that are associated with stressful and negative states and poor moods are

  • Worrying, pessimistic and negative thinking 
  • When we feel our emotional needs are not being met
  • Tiredness and exhaustion 
  • Rushing and setting unrealistic deadlines 
  • Poor diet and lack of physical activity 
  • Lack of vitamins and minerals 
  • Drug or alcohol abuse 
  • How we react to our external circumstances and situations 
  • Low self esteem and negative self talk 
  • Dehydration

Aim to live a healthy and balanced lifestyle and do things in moderation. Exercise regularly, try and play uplifting music to your exercise routine or listen to relaxing music as music is a great way to boost your mood as well as being a great relaxation technique.

If you have low self esteem work, stop putting yourself down and learn to like yourself and although socializing is important enjoy being in your own company. Use encouraging and self praising positive self talk.

Avoid dehydration, your body is made up mainly of water, when we dehydrate it affects our mood and even puts us in a anxious state, the secret is to drink smaller amounts more often, drinking too much water quickly does not work the same and it can be dangerous.

Get plenty of rest and try to eat a varied and healthy, well balanced diet because the foods you eat today can affect how you feel emotionally tomorrow.

12) Learn to relax

Get plenty of deep relaxation from techniques like meditation and hypnosis. The body needs deep relaxation once a day, spending twenty minutes a day deeply relaxing will boost your mood and increase your energy levels, being tired and run down can put you in a low mood. 

It is well known that getting enough good quality sleep is required to boost your energy levels and improve your mood. It can be hard to feel blissfully happy all of the time, but if you can find inner peace and calm then you can nearly always feel good. 

13) Stay positive and optimistic 

Even though there is so much good going on in most people's lives and there is always a new opportunity awaiting if you seek it out with a positive optimism.

Most people focus on the one bad event and then they give it their full attention trying to find ways to not let it happen again or over analyzing it, instead of taking the easy option of letting it go. 

Try and think more positive and better feeling thoughts, if you have a dream follow it, do not allow anybody to talk you out of going for your goals because that's sure to make you unsatisfied, as they say, " It is better to try and fail than it is to fail to try".

Mix and surround yourself with positive and fun people, avoid the negative type and develop and keep a positive and always optimistic attitude and approach to life because life is really what you make it

14) Learn to problem solve 

We all have to overcome challenges and everybody has problems. What you need to do is to learn how to problem solve instead of endlessly going over the same problems in your mind day after day.

As Einstein said "We cannot solve or problems with the same thinking we used when we created them".

If you're stuck in the a worry and negative energy then all you will achieve is you will make your problem bigger and you will create more problems.

You cannot experience happiness if you're stuck in a negative mindset, learn how to forget about the problem and concentrate on focusing on relaxing and searching for the solution.

To resolve a problem, you need to accept what is not in your control and analyze and change what is. Research and ask keep asking your mind questions.

The brain is a biological computer if you pose it a question it will have to give you an answer back. 

Avoid all the why me self questions, such as why does this always happen to me or why am I so unhappy. When you ask yourself these questions, your mind will be forced to reply and fill in the gaps. 

Negative self questions will have a negative answer and your mind will tell you something you don't want to hear like you are useless or you don't deserve to be happy.

On the other hand, if you ask yourself positive based questions like what things makes me happy then your mind will have to focus on things that make you happy.

15) Reduce your stress and anxiety

One thing that's sure to rob you of your happiness is stress and tension. We tend to attach fear, stress and tension to nearly everything we do, take the pressure of yourself to be perfect and slow down and relax more, because when you find inner peace life becomes easy. 

You cannot feel good if you have any stress and tension in your mind and body, when you're feeling tense or stressed, not only will you feel feelings of discomfort you will also feel more prone to anger and anxiety.

16) Follow Your Heart 

Follow your heart's desires instead of your head, we tend to be dictated by our old logical ways of thinking or other people's idea's, your heart always knows what you want to truly bring you lasting happiness. 

Use your imagination to help you create a fun and peaceful state. Try not to take your life and yourself too seriously.

Start giving your mind clear instructions, decide you are going to be happy and make it your number one priority and intention. 

But don't tell yourself how you should be or what you believe you need to make you feel happy.

Let your mind understand that you don't have to have or be anything to be happy, once you start to focus on what you want your mind will come back to you with the answers and ideas it thinks that you need to make you happier.

It's all about doing the little things on a daily basis, which in time we help you to build a state of more general background happiness, ignore any negative thoughts that make you feel bad and deliberately change your thoughts to something more pleasant, doing this once or twice won't change how you feel but practice doing it on a daily basis will.

17) Trick Your Mind

At times when you're feeling unhappy it is very easy for you to focus only on the negative, our thoughts match our moods, when you're in a negative mood you will have more and more negative thoughts. 

When you're feeling down and out it becomes very easy to interpret events or your circumstances the wrong way. 

Return back to think about the last thing that made you feel unhappy, where you focused on the worst case scenario, most people do and then they just focus on the bad side of things, over analyze it and they categorize the situation as the end of the world. 

Once you return to the situation, see if you can come up with a more positive or realistic outlook, if you have a problem look for a solution, if there is nothing you can do accept the situation and let it go. 

Always affirm to yourself things will get better, everything always works out for me, good things are coming my way.

18) Declutter and observe nature 

Get rid of any old clutter, possessions or photographs which you have now associated or they are constantly reminding you of any of your bad memories and negative emotions such has thing's related to ex-partners. 

Research by the Finish Forestry Research Institute suggest that a walk through a forest can help lift your spirits, reduce stress, relieve anger and raise your happiness levels. Get out and observe nature, absorb all the natural beauty around you, smell the scent of the flowers. 

In the winter still get out in the fresh air, it can be very tempting to stay in the warmth of your home. Breathe deeply from your belly, as deep stomach breathing can raise your vibration and increase your happiness levels.

Keeping yourself occupied and your mind active can increase your happiness, according to the latest research in Psychological Science, keeping your mind occupied with something positive or meaningful can fight off negative emotions.

19) Set yourself up for the day 

Happiness is about following a series of daily rituals and it is important that you start the day off in the right frame of mind so you can set the tone for the rest of the day.

Your preparation for the next day should begin the night before. If you have had a bad day then you want to let go of all that negative energy. 

If you make an effort to listen to some relaxing music, meditate or listen to a hypnosis track not only will it help you to calm your mind and body, letting in those good feeling emotions, but you will have a more relaxing sleep and you will wake up feeling calmer and more energized.

Then, as you wake up feeling good this is the time to seize the moment and to keep that positive momentum going before your worrying mind has a chance to wake up.

Start the day stating five things you're grateful for then tell yourself this is a great day and it's going to get even better. 

Again, you can mediate or listen to a hypnosis session first thing in the morning. Get up, have a good stretch and if you have time do a quick exercise routine, listen to some upbeat music or go for an early morning walk.

20) Stop caring what others think

Happy people don't care or worry too much about what others think about them. You will not always have control over other peoples comments or opinions, but you do have total control over how you choose to react to them.

Learn how to reject others peoples destructive comments or negative suggestions and do not fear or spend too much energy and time thinking about the words and thoughts made by other people.  

Remember, they are not real or accurate and true friends may offer you constructive criticism and advice, they would not deliberately try to hurt or upset you.  

You can make the odd allowance for your friends and family having a bad day, but if they are repeatedly nasty or hurtful to you ditch them.

People who spend their time judging and criticizing are usually unhappy or insecure themselves and they only to it to try and distract themselves from their own unhappy life and negative moods. 

So stop caring what others think and take no notice of what they say otherwise they will drain your energy.

Remember, the more happier you begin to feel, the better you treat yourself and the more you value and love yourself, then the more you will find that others start to treat you better because when you feel good life treats you better in every way.

21) Try not to carry the weight of the world on your shoulders

Reading negative articles or getting too emotionally engaged and involved with everything you hear and see on the news can have a negative impact on your mood.

Sadly, there are a lot of disasters and bad things happening to innocent people and although you should help a little or donate if you can, try not to allow or the doom and gloom around to affect you emotionally. 

We should all care to a degree, but not to the point where you let it get to you. Sometimes in life you have to accept the bad stuff and focus on the good as well as blocking out some of the bad and terrible things that are not in your control.

Just by being nice and showing a little bit of kindness, consideration and bringing some cheer to someone who is suffering is sometimes all you need to do your bit to help make the world a better place. 

Even, just be radiating and projecting a happy and positive energy will do wonders to the people around you


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Finding Happiness 

Tap into your true spiritual happiness

Manage Your Anger

Learn how to deal with the root cause  of your anger

Reduce Your Stress

Start to  lower your stress levels and return back to inner peace

Positive Thinking

Enjoy the many health benefits of positive thinking 

 Meditation For Stress

Nearly all the most successful people relax for  twenty minutes a day 

Manage Anxious Thoughts

Stop fighting with your thoughts and learn how to quieten them

Overcoming Fear

Wise up to fear and learn how to tame and outsmart the beast

 Dealing With Worry

Worrying can affect your health and quality of life

Be More Successful

Tips on how to become more successful in your life

End Panic Attacks

Help to end panic attacks and general anxiety disorder

The Power Of Hypnosis

Use the power of hypnosis to tap into the software of your mind

New Years Resolutions

Out with the old and in with the new ideal and more happier you