How To Overcome Shyness And Feelings Of Anxiety?

Redefine Yourself To Be More Confident And More Socially Extrovert

We are the self image of ourselves.

The one common dimonator that all shy or outgoing people share is. They will tend to act and behave consistently, with who they are and to how they have been programmed to be.

What this means is. Your character, attitude and personality will be decided by how you or others have come to define you.

Your shyness self image and personality was probably created for you at a time when you were a very young child, without you having any understanding, awareness or knowing what was going on.

You probably had it drilled into you as a young child that you're she, timid or quiet.

Perhaps your parents wanted a bit of peace and quiet, so they kept telling you negative suggestions like:

  • Little children should be seen, but not heard
  • Don't talk to strangers
  • Only speak when you're spoken to
Maybe, you were not allowed to express yourself or your views as a very young child or maybe you were not encouraged to join in with the conversations.

Or perhaps you were teased, put down or ridiculed by your brothers or sisters or other family members, peers and neighbours.

Whatever the reason. At some point, you developed the label and self image of being quiet and shy which you did not want or ask for. 

A child's mind is like an open book. And as a young baby you had the equal choice of becoming and doing whatever you wished.

Unfortunately, either through your experiences or your parents and peers, even though they did not realized it. 

Closed that open book and gave you a shyness tag that would restrict and limit you in many negative and limiting ways.

Rather than encouraging you to be the confident and outgoing person option that was equally, available for you.

This means it was not your choice. Instead, it was something that you were conditioned to believe, accept and ultimately become.

Because if it was you choice and you knew what you know now. Then you would have surely, decided to define yourself and who you are, based on who and what you truly wanted to be, do and become.

How human beings act and behave, is a direct inner reflection of who they truly believe they real are.

Imagine if you were appearing in a film or play and your role you was to play a quiet, timid and shy character.

What would happen is. You would role model and portray a quiet, shy and timid character throughout the whole part of that movie or play. 

As you were playing and adhering to the script you were given. At no point would you be seen as extrovert and outgoing.

This is who you would become and be, for the entirety of the film or play. Because you would act out and behave in conformity with the script you were given.

Well essentially this is what has happened to in real life.  

Because, when you were a very young child. Others wrote your life script, story and character. 

Which you have continue to believe, buy into and playout, until this very day. 

If you and others have consistently been defining you as quiet and shy, this is who you will be.

As long as you and others carry on defining you as shy you're not likely to feel extrovert, outgoing and confident.

Shy people or those who lack self confidence will often rely on alcohol to help them come out of their shell, give them more courage or help them to feel more socially relaxed and outgoing.

All the alcohol is really doing, though. It is allowing you permission to be your real confident self.

Which is the real authentic you that you have been suppressing and hiding away because of your need to consistently be a match to your shy self image and label. 

How you are now living your life is based on your beliefs, your conditioning and your experiences.

When you say or think you're shy or underconfident or you are listening to others define you as being shy or underconfident.

This is who you convince yourself, you are.

Ask yourself. 

At what point did you decide that you're shy and under confident and at what point did you decide that you were going to allow others to define you and what you are?

Your shy and quiet negative self image was created for you, many years ago and then you have allowed your negative self image to control and define.

  • You and who you are
  • Your character and personality
  • Your action and behaviors
Redifine yourself as what you want to be

The first thing to be aware of is there is nothing wrong with being quiet if you're happy with that. 

In fact liking your own company can even be a good thing as you can use that time to be more productive and do the things that you want to do.

If you are the introvert type, then this does not mean you cannot be more confident or outgoing.

Being an introvert doesn't mean that your necessary shy. It may just mean that you need to eradicate some old fears and insecurities as well as learning and developing your social skills.

An introvert can be a sign of high levels of creativity and it can also be an indication that you're a deep thinker and creative problem solver as long as you're using your mind and imagination wisely.

Unfortunately, many shy people also suffer with social anxiety and they have difficulty in interacting and expressing themselves socially.

Therefore, it is fine to be quiet, but it should be your own choice and personal preference. 

Not being able to express yourself and not being able to voice your opinions because you may feel what you have to say is not worth saying or you are to afraid to be yourself and relax socially, is not fine.

Because it is a terrible thing to live in fear and it is a terrible thing to sit in silence, when you 

  • Want to have fun socially
  • You are itching to express yourself and voice your opinions
  • You want to join in the conversations more
  • You want to further your career or promotion prospects
  • You want enjoyable and fulfilling relationships
  • You want to enjoy all the benefits of socializing and being more confident.
To overcome your shyness and be more confident you will need to start re-defining yourself as well as changing your negative associations and limiting beliefs.

The one thing that you must be aware of is.

You cannot redefine yourself if you keep referring back to your old default settings and mental programming.

If you use positive statement and then you finish them off with a negative self defining statement like.

  • I would like to express my opinions but I am not very confident
  • I would like to engage more in conversations, but I am not very good at talking
  • I want to tell people this joke, but I am not very good at telling jokes
  • I would like to be more extroverted but you finish of with, but I have always been quiet and shy
The chances are, you will remain the same.

State what you would like yourself to be.

  • What I have to say is important and worth saying
  • I am a good talker or I am getting better at talking
  • I can learn how to tell jokes clearly and concisely
  • Each day my confidence is increasing
If you're having negative or anxious imaginings. Say or think something positive or tell yourself some positive safety messages.

For example. If you're imagining things going wrong. Imagine everything going well, imagine everything going as you would like it to be, focus on how calm, cool and confident you feel.

Tell yourself positive and self reassuring statements like

  • I have the confidence to handle that
  • If that happens, I'll be OK
  • I can handle it
  • I am happy to be the center of attention
  • I am happy to speak in front of others
This may require time and effort, the key is to grow and develop at a pace that is right for you.

To not put in the time and effort is to deny yourself of becoming the best version of you.

This will cheat you and prevent yourself from being the person of your choice and not your programmed predisposition, to behave in a particular way. 

Although transformation takes time and effort. That time and effort is needed to be able to make the changes that you desire, to become effective and lasting.

What will motivate and inspire you is when you and others begin to notice the positive progress that you have made.

If you can make progress on a daily and consistent basis that progress will motivate and pull you to carry on.

Progress and betterment is a much better way of putting things than change or improvement as they suggest that you're doing it because you're not good enough or there is something wrong with you.

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Change from within

Now you understand why you are shy. You will develop the awareness. That nothing is set in stone and with a bit of faith and effort. 

You can begin to mold yourself into the person you choose to be rather than playing the character that others have chosen for you.    

Shyness is just a label, but you can change that label you have been given. 

It is you shyness labels and your social anxiety that are holding you back and keeping you stuck and limited, not to mention all the emotional suffering your anxiety is causing you.

Once you begin to overcome your shyness and social anxiety.

You will start to experience and become a different, more socially calm and composed, better version of you and you will expose yourself to a better way of being and living.

The key is to start to change from within. Imagine and affirm to yourself, as if you are already the better version of you that you would like to be.

There is a shy you and there is a more outgoing you. There is a happy you and there is a sad you. There is a confident you and a less confident you. 

You choose and decide the version of you that you would like to be and work towards being that better version you.

Be yourself, but aim to be the very best you

Although you might wish to be more extroverted, confident and outgoing. Always be yourself and only work on becoming the best version of you. 

Do not wish to be somebody else as that suggest that you're not happy with yourself which will lead to emotional trauma and inner conflict.

There is also an important thing to clear up.

There is nothing wrong with being quiet and introverted. Because there are no set rules on how you should be and how you should live your life.

Being introverted is not a problem.

In fact it can be a sign of intelligence and it could mean that you are a creative thinker, designer and problem solver. 

Therefore it is a talent not a burden or thing you need to change. Being introverted can be an asset when it is used constructively.

The problem starts when you use your inner thinking, your imagination and your creative talents in self defeating and self sabotaging ways.

The world needs introverts to invent, create and design so if you are introverted see it as a talent and strength, not a weakness.

But at the same time. Just because you are introverted it does not mean you have to be shy, anxious or quiet socially nor should you be held back in your relationships or career advancements .

If you like your own company or you just like to spend your time with your family or close friends or you like doing the things that you enjoy. 

Then there is nothing wrong with that and there is nothing wrong with being introverted.

But how you choose to be and live your life should be your own personal choice and you should not have to miss out or feel socially anxious or uncomfortable because of your shyness or you're social anxiety. 

Because shyness and social anxiety can disadvantage you in many ways and prevent you from being yourself and expressing yourself and your views and opinions, socially. 

Shyness and anxiety can prevent you from forming close relationships, it can blockout your self confidence and it can hinder your career prospects . 

1) Developing new social skills

Change is possible but it takes time. There are no overnight quick fixes. The secret to personal development and transformation is all about making small and positive, progressive progress.

Start off by developing new social skills. There is no need to hurry, you can change at your own pace, on what suits you and what feels right for you. 

Practice your new social skills and implement them in small manageable steps that feels right for you. Attempt small steps first and as you start to get better attempt the bigger challenges.

Set yourself some new goals where you know you will have to step out of your comfort zone. This might be talking to someone you don't normally speak to much or speaking in front of a group.

Do not be put off by any feelings of discomfort or nervousness. Accept you may feel a bit uncomfortable and be OK with that. 

Where people go wrong is. They won't accept a bit of discomfort, so the avoid any situation that makes them feel uncomfortable. This however. Just reinforces your fears and anxiety.

Because the only way to develop, grow and stretch yourself is for you to step outside of your comfort zone. It is perfectly natural to feel a bit uncomfortable at first. But this will get easier for you with practice.

Always smile when you meet and greet people or when you are venturing outside of your comfort zone.

2) Use your imagination wisely

If you are shy or socially anxious then the chances are you allow your imagination to scare and terrify you senseless all of the time.

How often do you find yourself imagining and projecting what you don't want to happen or what you dread might go wrong. which causes you to react with endless fear, anxiety and stress.

Every time you misuse your imagination. You are conditioning and setting yourself up to feel afraid in that situation for real.

But there is a much better way of using your imagination. 

Anytime you are going into a new or challenging situation. Imagine everything going well. See and imagine yourself as you would like to be and feel.

You can even rehearse what you are going to say or how you are going to answer any questions. Focus on what is most likely to happen.

If you notice yourself starting to imagine things going wrong and you are starting to feel anxious, worried or stressed.

Take over that imagined scenario and imagine yourself handling it in a calm and resourceful manner. Imagine yourself as you would ideally like to be and get into the habit of imagining things going well.

The more you practice doing this. The more relaxed and comfortable you will feel in that situation for real.

3) Keep learning about new knowledge and new subjects

The one thing that can keep you quiet is not having enough things to talk about or not knowing what to say to others.

Because shy people are also often worriers. They spend to much time stuck in their own head worrying about what might go right or analysing and monitoring how they are feeling or how they're coming across.

Spending some time learning, watching TV or reading can give you more stuff to talk about. 

If you can get to know the things that the people you have to work with or socialize with like or you will have more things can share a common interest in. 

Once you pay an interest in what others like. You can learn a bit about the subject or you can do a bit of research on You Tube to give you a greater insight and greater knowledge on the subject or topic,

This does not mean you cannot share your interests and opinions with others. Because, the wider range of topics and subjects you study and learn about the more things you will have to talk about.

Keep an interest on what is trending at the moment, local stuff, sports, films, documentories or the events that are going on in the world.

4) Ask questions

If you're struggling to find something to say or you are trying to initiate a conversation.

Start of by asking them some personal questions about themselves. Try to ask them a question where it will need quite a few words to answer.

In general. People like to talk about themselves because that is usually the one subject that they have a lot to say about.

Ask the general types of questions. Like what they are up to how they are getting on with their jobs, hobbies, holidays, interests and projects.

You can even take a look at their social media accounts to find out their interests, hobbies, what they are involved in and the things they like.

5) Facing your fears

Many shy people don't stay quiet because they want to. 

They hold back because of the way that they feel

You might also think that somehow think that what they say is not worth saying or they are to afraid of embarrassing themselves or making a mistake.

How many times has fear and anxiety stopped you from saying what you want or prevented you from being yourself or stopped you from expressing yourself.

The truth is. Anxiety is just an illusion. It is not real, it is just your mind trying to guess and portray what might happen in the future.

Feelings may feel uncomfortable. But they are just feelings and feelings cannot hurt you.

The anxiety is your fight, flight, freeze response. Why you feel anxious is because you have managed to attach your fight or flight response to all those social situations which make you feel ashamed, embarrassed or humiliated.

But there is no reason for you to feel ashamed or embarrassed about nothing whatsoever.

These are learned behavioural responses that can be unlearned and then relearned.

What will prevent you from overcoming your fears and anxiety is. Taking the easy option, by either playing it safe or opting to use avoidance tactics.

The trouble is. When you choose to avoid or leave a social situation, because it makes you feel uncomfortable.

You will reenforce and strengthen that fear and association with being threatening.

If you want to overcome your shyness and your social anxiety. You have to learn to accept feelings of discomfort so you can face your feared situations and grow.

Once you start to face your fears. Then your mind will start to switch off your fight or flight response.

The more you can learn to relax. The easier it will be to face your fears.

Before you face a challenging social situation. Take some slow deep breaths. Making the out breathe longer than the in one.

Reassure yourself that you'll be OK and tell your mind quite firmly. That the anxiety is not necessary.

If you start to feel uncomfortable. Do not react, and do not try to fight it of resist it.

You may have some anxious thoughts as well as the uncomfortable feelings.

Again, focus on your breathing. Release any tension your holding onto. Put on a big smile. Then just embrace, accept and allow your whole body to feel the fear. 

Expand your awareness to your whole body and allow the emotion to rise up through you and away.

Just carry on observing your thoughts and feelings and carry on with what you're doing, keep your attention externally focused.

6) Changing your mental programming

Nearly all your habitual habits, your perceptions of yourself, your beliefs, the way you react socially and with other people and your behaviors are mental programs that are running in your subconscious mind.

Your shyness and your fears, anxieties and insecurities are learned behaviors that you have developed through others, your negative experiences and your inner self talk.

It is these neural association, learned behaviors and mental patterns that control your emotional responses, your behaviors, your habitual behaviors, how you come across socially and your actions.

Unless you change these chore beliefs, language patterns, thought processes, neural associations and learned behaviors, emotional responses. 

It is very hard if not virtually impossible to make any long lasting and permanent changes to make the changes that you are want on the outside.

Overcoming shyness and anxiety requires commitment, persistence and effort. 

There are no easy solution, it all depends on your willingness to change your limiting patterns, beliefs, habitual habits and behaviors and your learned association.

If there was a quick and magic cure, we would all be doing it. 

But the rewards and benefits you will gain as you start to move towards being the best you, living your best life and being in charge of your feelings and emotions will be more than worth it for you.

The reason why people to struggle to overcome their anxiety and free themselves of their shyness is because they do not deal with and learn how to bypass the critical and logical part of their mind that tries to resist change.

Unless you access your subconscious mind which is in charge of all your habits, beliefs, feelings, memories, behaviours and responses. It is hard to make the changes you want.

You mental conditioning is the root cause of many of your anxieties, self doubts, insecurities, limitations and worries that keep you stuck in your comfort zone.

If you want to change and be the best you and live your best life. Then you have to change your mental programming and conditioning.

It takes time and effort and you have to keep working at it, but the results will be long lasting and well worth it.

Self hypnosis is still one of the most powerful tools that can allow you to access your subconscious mind allowing you to change your mental programming.

If you want to overcome your shyness. Then you should consider giving self hypnosis a try. If you do, stick at it until you make the changes you desire.

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7) Get out of your head

Many shy and introverted people spend a lot of time stuck in their own head. This is fine, if your thinking and focus of attention is positive, helpful and constructive.

But if you are constantly monitoring how you are feeling or how you are coming across. Or you are always worrying about what others might think about you or what they might say about you.

Then you are going to hold yourself stuck in a negative and anxious state of mind and being.

When you are socializing. Try to stay outwardly focused. Focus all your attention on what the other people are saying or what you are saying.

If you start to feel uncomfortable. Observe how you're feeling, accept it, feel it but offer no resistance. Relax your body, smile, take some slow deep breaths and keep focused externally. 

You can also. Distract yourself, like hum or sing a happy tune to yourself.

8) Change your inner self talk

One of the most important things that affects how you feel, how you perceive yourself, what you do or don't do or become is your inner self talk.

The most important person you will talk to is yourself. Always talk to yourself as you would advise and help somebody else. When you treat yourself nice, life will treat you better.

Your self talk defines and shapes you as a person. Therefore it is important that you monitor your self talk. Many shy people use negative self talk.

You may find you say to yourself things like. 

  • I don't have the confidence to
  • I am just not very good at
  • This is going to be scary
  • Nothing goes right for me
  • It's not me
  • I am never going to
  • I can't do
  • I am not the type of person
  • I am always nervous
All this negative self talk will keep on reinforcing all the negative self image you have about yourself in your mind and it will continue to disempower you and keep you small.

Yet it is just as easy to say nice, encouraging and positive things about yourself and you are going to feel a whole lot better for it.

Take charge of your self talk and only say positive, supportive and encouraging things about yourself. 

Your mind can be your best ally or your own worst enemy. Depending on how you talk and perceive yourself.

You can have complete control of your thoughts and if you repeatedly use positive self talk and statements. Then over a period of time. It is going to make a big difference to who you are, how you feel and how you behave.

Just say the opposite to what is making you feel bad and what is diminishing you, what is disempowering you and bringing you down

9) You are good enough, you always have been and you always will be

Many shy people are also sensitive and insecure and you have probably picked up many further insecurities from your life experiences up to date.

You may even think that you're not good enough or equal enough which can all have a negative affect on your self confidence. 

Another root source of shyness, anxiety and insecurity, and they are all linked, is.
  • When you are comparing yourself unfavorably to others 
  • When you feel your inadequate 
  • When you think that you don't measure up 
  • When you think that you're different or there is something wrong with you
Each night, just before you go to bed, and when you first wake up in the morning. Stand in front of a mirror, look yourself in the eye and say to yourself a few times.

"I love you" 

And mean it.

You can also start to replace any negative, damaging and limited beliefs that you have

  • I am good enough 
  • I am capable enough 
  • I am interesting enough 
  • I am confident enough 
  • I am powerful enough 
  • I am worthy enough 
  • I am courageous enough 
  • I am secure enough
Say these with real conviction and meaning

Another root source of your shyness or social anxiety can stem from having developed an inferiority complex.

We tend to feel inferior when we compare ourselves unfavorably to others or we seek to be like somebody else, usually somebody who we think is confident and outgoing. 

When you desire or wish to be like somebody, you're basically telling yourself that you are not good enough.

It is alright to be inspired by others, to push you into motivating yourself to be the best you, but you should not tell you, that you want to be somebody else.

Always accept who you are, faults included and be true to yourself and then work on being the best possible you.

Self acceptance is the best way to free yourself from your emotional suffering. 

If you are going through a bad patch, also accept what is and surrender to it. Then focus on making your life better.

Accept the worse case scenario and be OK with it.

10) Create the new self image of yourself

Over the years you and others create our own inner self image of yourself, and this reflects out the type of person that you are to the rest of the world.

Your self image is basically the perception that you have about yourself, which includes your identity, your abilities, how you value yourself, your feelings of self worth and all your other characteristics, mannerisms and personal traits. 

Your self image also determines your self esteem and confidence levels, and it essentially determines who you are and what you become, so it is pretty important.

Most people, especially shy and underconfident people, have just accepted the self image, that was created by others and essentially given to you by others at a very early age, where you did not even have the ability to question, change or challenge it. 

Because I am sure, that if it was down to your choice, then you would have chosen to be more socially confident and outgoing, after all, nobody deliberately chooses to be shy, because being shy in no fun and it can be very limiting.

Once the quiet or shy, self image of you was created, you have simply carried it on, and added to it by your own beliefs and experiences, as you continually create more and more evidence to support it.

It is a bit like, you have been given a character role to play in the film of your life, and you are playing out that role.

If one of your parents were shy or negative, then you might have also picked up their negative energy and mindset.

You can, you know, start to change and redesign your self image and begin to install and brand new positive and confident self image of you.

If you want to be the type of confident person that you would like to be, start to see and affirm yourself as the new outgoing and socially comfortable you, see yourself as that person whom you want to be.

The good thing about beliefs is they can be changed and when you change your beliefs you will change your behaviours and you will change with them for the better.

You have the choice at any moment to be more talkative, happier, outgoing and spontaneous and although it might take time for you to take on your new self image always, remember the person who you want to be is always available for you to access if you choose.

11) Use your body to be more confident, happy and charismatic

Use good body language when talking or listening, always have an open but relaxed posture. 

If you can, try and make good eye contact. 

You can always look at other parts of the person's face besides their eyes. 

Your brain uses feedback from your body to gauge whether you are safe in your environment. If your muscles are tense or you are experiencing symptoms of stress.

Then your brain uses this as feedback that something bad must be about to happen and it will go on high alert to danger. 

The good news is this is a two way thing. Therefore, if you smile, breathe deeply and you relax your body. Your brain will interpret this as. You must be safe, otherwise you wouldn't be relaxing and smiling if you were in danger.

We are all born with a confident and poised naturally body posture, where we sit, stand and move about easily and free of tension.

But over time, we can tend to develop bad, negative and tense posture habits which can reduce our self confidence and make us feel insecure.

It is well known that our body can have a profound effect on your mind and emotions.

The reason for our tense and bad feeling negative postures can range from bad sitting and standing habits, to psychological issues such as shyness and anxiety, or trying to stand or sit taller than your natural poised posture.

The trick is not to try and physically hold yourself up, but to let go of any of your negative and tension habits, so you can return back to your natural poised and balanced posture.

You can put an immediate stop to the stress response as well as keeping your anxiety levels down by learning how release any tension and learning how to control your breathing and taking some slow deep breaths when you face a challenging situation.

12) Look forwards to social events

The difference between confident people and shy people is. The confident and extrovert person will look forward to a social event or party, the see and imagine things going well, they feel excited about the forthcoming gathering.

This is preconditioning themselves to have a good time and to feel relaxed and at ease and they usually do. 

On the other hand, the shy and anxious person will perceive the same situations completely different. They will tend to worry and dread about everything that can possibly go wrong, 

This is mentally programming themselves to feel nervous and anxious about the event and when the time comes they feel anxious, which destroys their confidence and they do not enjoy the occasion, this can lead to relying on alcohol to give them the confidence to socialize. 

When you look forward to something it fills you with those good feeling positive emotions of excitement, joy, confidence and happiness which will suffocate those feelings of anxiety and nervousness, when your filled with excitement you cannot wait for the time to come. 

When you dread the thought of something it triggers negative emotions, more worry and anticipation and the urge to avoid the situation. 

Get into the habit of looking forward to social events, feel excited about them and replace words like I don't like or dread with enjoy, like and love.

When you feel anxious. Reply with. That seems like fun. Always reassure your anxious mind that you can handle it or whatever happens you'll be OK.

Practice leads to confidence, make an effort to join in the conversations more. Sometimes you just have to push yourself and push yourself through the discomfort barrier.

The more you practice and the more you do things the better you will become at them.

13) Boost your self esteem

Ask yourself the question what's really holding you back and limiting your self confidence? The answer to that might be your fears, conditioning and undervaluing yourself. 

What you have to say is worthwhile and matters, you know that you want to express yourself, but your feelings are preventing you from doing so, but you can override your feelings if you wish. 

Replace the negative what if thoughts to positive what if thoughts, like what if everything goes well.

This will shift your energy to a more positive state, such as what if I make a fool of myself to what if I come across as calm, bold and confident.

Get into the habit of praising yourself. Even for those little achievements and accomplishments.

If other people give you praise it makes you feel good and boosts your confidence if they say negative things about you it can knock your confidence, the same applies with how you speak to yourself. 

When you praise and say positive things to yourself it makes you feel good on the same token, if you say negative and self defeating things to yourself it makes you feel bad, so it makes sense to focus on more general and positive thoughts.

Human evolution has taught us to focus on the negative and if that's not bad enough, we then totally exaggerate and blow trivial things completely out of proportion to the extent where one negative experience can dominate and influence our patterns of thinking, our actions and behaviours and how we feel for days, weeks and years after.

So in future ignore the negative and only focus on the positive and the all that is good in your life and this world, because you will always find what you search for the most.

If things wrong for you or if you make a mistake, it's no big deal just laugh it, let it go off and move forwards. Ask yourself how do you want to live your life? 

It should be exciting, enjoyable and fun, if you're not living the life you want, then you have to do something about it.

Each morning and even. Find five things to be grateful or thankful for, because gratitude and appreciation helps to keep you in a calm and positive energy.

The antidote to fear, worry and anxiety is those calm and positive feelings and emotions.

14) Stop caring what other people think or say

In order to grow in confidence and develop socially we sometimes need to think what the heck, then tell ourselves I know I can do this, I am not bothered what people think. 

Avoid giving your attention to anything that causes negative resistance and emotions, practice thinking only about things that cause good feelings. To be more confident you need those good feeling emotions. 

Keep pushing yourself bit by bit, it's all about conditioning yourself to be more bold and courageous, do and say things where normally you would hold back. 

Practice being confident in front of a mirror, just by observing yourself looking confident can do wonders for you, this is what successful people do.

We are also told as children not to show ourselves up or make a fool of ourselves or don't speak until your spoken to, grow up. All these kind of remarks would condition us to be shy and introvert. 

Shy and anxious people are constantly tormented and help back by their feelings of insecurity, sometimes we just have to be brave and say what the heck and then just do it. 

Try to stop monitoring and gauging how you're feeling and how you're coming across, remember they are only feelings, they cannot prevent you from doing anything unless you give into them.

Refuse to allow anybody to intimidate you.

The Fast Track Route To Becoming More Extrovert

It has always been well known that extroverts generally live much happier and more successful lives and there have now been studies conducted to prove this.

Edward C. Brewer, an associate professor in the Department of Organizational Communication at Murray State University, ran a study where he discovered that extroverts have a better chance at succeeding in life and in business. 

His studies revealed that in the highest executive ranks of Fortune 1000 companies, you are more likely to find extroverts than introverts.

This demonstrates that extroverts are not only more socially confident plus they find it easier to approach, attract and keep the opposite sex. 

But on top of those advantages they are also more successful in their careers and they have a better chance at landing the higher paid jobs.

Becoming an extrovert will help to boost your overall happiness plus it will also help to further your career and job prospects. 

But the advantages does not end there, because two professors at Wake Forest University in Winston-Salem, North Carolina co-authored another study.

There aim was to determine whether introverts or extroverts achieved a better overall balance between work and family life. 

The research revealed that the extroverts experience the most positive connections between work and family roles, they had a more positive attitude and outlook on life and overall they were far happier and confident than the introverts.

This is a short article about the successful the "Extrovert Me" program written by leading self help guru and creator of many of the worlds leading self help products Bradley Thompson.

If you’ve suffered from shyness like me, then you know that it can be a major impediment to every activity in your life.

But you truly do not have to be suffering from shyness any more. Scientific studies have shown that shyness is a learned habit, and that it can be broken.

It’s easier than you think. Regardless of how long you’ve been “the shy one” at the party, or the “quiet one” at work, you don’t have to be left out or left behind anymore.

You don’t have to be a wallflower. You can be the one who gets the promotion, or the one who gets the date, or the one who people enjoy being with at a party. It’s not magic. It’s science. Let us show you how.

This is a short article promoting the "Extrovert Me" program written by leading self help guru and creator of many of the worlds leading self help products Bradley Thompson.

You've been invited to a huge party. Great! Or could it be ... 'oh no'? For shy people a party can be something to fear. Listen to what Sharon P. of Dallas, Texas told me about shyness.

"I was so shy! If I walked into a crowded room I felt everyone was looking at me. I would turn red trying to have the most basic conversations. My self-confidence would plummet and more than once I have run out of a room in tears."

The extrovert, however, is the polar opposite to the shy person. They happily attract attention. They even want to meet you. They're confident, friendly, fun and lively, heck, they're irresistible to everyone they meet.

Which are you? Are you an extrovert or are you shy like Sharon used to be? If you're a shy person listen closely.'You weren't born shy and it's not your fault.' Contrary to what you've heard you are not naturally shy or anti-social.

Nobody is born 'shy'. It's a developed conditioned response. Best news? You can easily unlearn shyness and become one of the extroverts. 

Imagine that! Bouncing into the next social gathering without fear and beaming with confidence. It is possible I know it for a fact.

How do I know? How can I speak with any authority on becoming an extrovert? My name is Bradley Thompson and I researched the topic extensively before designing the program "Extrovert Me". I designed it to bring out the extrovert in you. It works!

Frankly, it's one of the most rewarding self-development programs I have been involved with in the past 12 years. Why? 

Because when I designed this program I knew I was creating something to change people's lives.

It has, it does, and it will for you too. If you are the slightest bit curious about what it would be like to be one of the extroverts then do what Sharon did before she banished her shyness forever.

Please come and take a quick look at how you can change every day of your life, from this day forward, with this groundbreaking program.

Extrovert Me


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