How To Free Yourself From Your Obsessive Compulsive Disorder And End Your Unwanted Thoughts And Rituals

Have you become a slave to your feelings and compulsions, has your obsessive and repetitive thoughts become so dominant that they have took control of your mind, behaviors, actions and even your life to a large degree?

We all like the feeling of security and certainty.

But for many people. There, obsessive thoughts, feelings and emotions can get so out of control. They can become your normal, emotional set point and way of behaving and doing things.

As you know, not only is your obsessive compulsive disorder robbing you of your valuable time. They are also, probably making your life a misery.

When OCD gets out of control.

It will have you performing tedious amounts of unnecessary and repetitive and time consuming rituals, just to ease your feelings and compulsions and quieten your anxious mind. 

The thing to be aware of with OCD is:

The danger and fear, exists within your imagination and to a large degree, you're trusting your imagination more than your trusting your logic and what is realistic.

Our mind is a very powerful tool when it is used wisely. However, it can be your own worst enemy, when you are misusing your imagination.

You may wonder why you spend so much time, performing your negative rituals and why you can't just stop them or do something once.

Rather than feel the urge to repeatedly do something or why you feel the need to do things in a certain way.

You may feel confused, frustrated and annoyed with yourself.

The reason why it can be so hard to break the compulsions. 

Is because those, thoughts, feelings and compulsions feel so real, so powerful, so overwhelming and so over dominant, to you.

For the peace of mind, It seems easier to give into them.

Logically. You know, that it does not make any sense and it won't protect you anymore. By spending ages, performing your rituals over and over again.

But even though, you know it makes no sense to perform your daily rituals. You, still carry on doing them.

The trouble is.

The more times you perform your rituals. The more you will strengthen the anxiety and the more you will doubt yourself and your ability to make a decisive decsion.

Sometimes your thoughts and anxieties may be warranted and justified, which can help protect you and keep you guarded against any negative eventualities or potential risks.

Much of the time, they are often random and they do not match up, with what is most, realistically, likely to happen.

The trouble is. The more you succumb to your mind, feelings and compulsions, the more you will justify the need for them.

Fear and anxiety or a bad memory are often the driving force behind your compulsions and rituals.

A bit of positive self talk and reassurance that all is well and everything will be OK, can help to challenge and breakdown, the belief behind the fear.

Ask yourself, why you feel anxious and ask yourself, what is most likely to happen, if you do not perform all your sequences of rituals?

OCD, is also a lot harder to control and manage, at times when you're feeling stressed, negative or tense.

Therefore, learning how to relax, should be an important part of your OCD management and recovery, strategy.

Although, OCD is driven by worry and anxiety. It can soon become a well practised habit, that you feel is necessary to keep you safe and restore inner peace.

If you feel that your OCD has got out of control and it is taking over your life.

Then do not feel ashamed or embarrassed to seek professional help.

However, there are many things that you can do for yourself. Which can help you break free from the grip of your obsessive compulsions and rituals.

You are far more powerful than your feelings and emotions. If your willpower is strong. You can just ignore your thoughts and compulsions, and not give in.

Just feel them, embrace them and let them flow through you and away.

This might feel a bit uncomfortable for a little while. But, the feelings will usually subside.

However, this approach will not be enough for some of the more severe cases. 

Many people need a bit of extra expert help. To help them break their obsessive habits, thoughts and compulsions.

Using coping strategies or trying to suppress your thoughts and feelings. Can actually make your OCD much worse and it will fuel the vicious anxiety and fear pattern, habits and cycles.

Most people will struggle to overcome their OCD and their obsessive thoughts. Because, they are missing out, one a few crucial things.

The program, below. Will teach you, why you have OCD, what is causing your OCD, what you're doing wrong and how you can free yourself from your repetitive thoughts, compulsions and rituals.

OCD is a learned behavior, but all behaviors can unlearned

There are literally hundreds of thousands of people around the world who are struggling with some form of OCD and overwhelming, intrusive and repetitive anxious thoughts.

Anxious and intrusive thoughts can trick you and leave you with a sense of feeling, that something bad will happen to you or your family, if you do not obey your mind and compulsions and perform your time consuming rituals.

Logically, you already know, that the chances of anything bad happening to you or your family, are remote and highly unlikely, and the danger and risks only really exist within your imagination.

One of the reasons why you're struggling is, you are dealing with strong fearful feelings and compulsions that can bully you into performing your daily rituals.

Why this is happening is because, you have conditioned your mind to associate, the thing you're worried about happening with being a potential danger to you.

Many people class OCD with being a mental disorder, but it is more of a bad and well practiced habit and learned behavior, and what can be learned can be unlearned.

Often the root cause and the catalyst for obsessive behaviors and repetitive thinking, is a bad memory or experience, sometimes people are aware of their bad memory, but for others it is less obvious.

But this is not always the case as OCD, can even be a result of an imagined trauma, a persistent worry or something that you have picked up or learned to fear second hand.

When strong and powerful feelings become attached to a situation, a possible consequence or outcome, then your mind will not take much notice of any logic and reasoning. 

This is why, even though you know what you're doing does not make any logical sense. 

Our beliefs, and at the root source of your OCD is a negative belief, are not usually based on logic, they are based on emotional attachment and an association with danger.

Therefore, trying to reason with an emotionally powerful belief and association, will probably not help much.

Emotions and associations are what triggers your compulsions and your obsessive behavior, actions, and anxious thoughts.

Because of the strong feelings and compulsions, that are linked to your fight or flight response mechanism, you're following your natural instinct, to take action to avoid the perceived consequences from happening.

Your mind and body are effectively tricking you through thoughts, imagery and feelings, to take preventive action in the absence of any real external danger.

The two main reasons why you may perform your rituals is, because you think it will prevent the imagined bad thing, from coming true and secondly, it is the only way you know, at the present moment, that can reduce your anxiety and compulsions.

But as you already know, the relief is only temporary, and you're not reducing your fear, stress and anxiety, in fact you're fueling your OCD and you're making the feelings and associations stronger,

It won't be long, until you start the whole tedious, energy draining and time wasting, unnecessary process again.

The consequences of all your OCD rituals, stress, worry and anxiety, actually, pose, more of a risk to your health, emotional well-being and the quality of your life, than the imagined bad thing.

Question your overactive imagination

Do you believe, everything your mind presents to you?

Your imagination is a very powerful and persuasive tool, capable of creating and designing many wonderful things.

But when it's used in self defeating ways, then it can cause self destruction, misery and much suffering.

Your body follows your imagination, but you don't have to.

We can fall into these obsessive habits, cycles and rituals, when we presume that what our imagination is telling us, will come true.

Do you ever, challenge your imagination, and class it as one remote and highly unlikely possibility, or do you accept this one possible outcome, and ignore, the more likely outcomes? 

Your mind is only focusing on the worse case scenario, and it will ignore, the most likely outcomes.

The next time you start to imagine the worst, practice training your mind, to perceive more positive and realistic alternative outcomes. 

Start to challenge your negative beliefs, you could ask yourself, why do you believe this bad thing is going to happen, and what evidence do you have.

Your mind has evolved to anticipate danger, and it gauges its responses on the conditioning and learning that it has been programmed with.

But your mind is not accurate, and it has no way of knowing the future.

The anticipation, is only a possible outcome or prediction of what could happen, it is not a certainty.

Your mind does not like uncertainty, so it tries to force you to do the rituals, to try and give you as much certainty as it possibly can.

But, nobody can have absolute certainty.

It is OK to be a bit cautious and take sensible measures to help to keep you safe, but when OCD becomes out of control, it isn't protecting you any more and for your own sake, it needs to be resolved.

When you're having all those risk assessments " What if thoughts or what if that happens imaginings"

Do you accept them as being true and act upon them, or do you ever say to yourself.

" What it doesn't happen, what if everything goes well, whatever happens, I'll be OK"

Start to turn around the negative energy from those what if something bad happens, to positive what if thoughts, and notice how different you respond and feel.

People often ask, how do you stop or deal with your anxious and intrusive thoughts?

The answer is, you don't.

When you try to suppress your thoughts and feelings, you will generate more emotional arousal.

The truth is, you do not have to accept what your imagination is predicting, and you do not have to try and deal with your unwanted thoughts.

The clue lies with the unwanted.

The more sensitive you become to your negative thoughts and the more you don't want to think these thoughts, the more your mind will think them.

But if you get out of the way, and leave your mind alone to continue to think the thoughts, and you practice feeling calm and comfortable around your unwanted thoughts, without reacting or wanting to sop them, then your mind will quickly give up and it will settle down by itself.

The trick is to observe, but don't react or judge. 

The next time you feel the urge to give into your feelings and compulsions, just stop and pause for a minute, breathe deeply for a few minutes and relax. 

Then just allow the compulsions and feelings to build up in your body, but do not give in and perform your rituals, feel the compulsions and let them come and go, and refuse to surrender to your feelings, 

Remember, it is just feelings, and you have a choice to ignore and stop what you're doing and walk away, and no amount of feelings and compulsions can stop you, nothing bad will happen, you just think it will.

Once you learn to say no to your compulsion and either face or walk away from your fear and you embrace and go with the feelings, after a few minutes, they will start to subside, and you will be back in control.

Some of you may think, you cannot do this, and you may have come to believe, that it takes a long time to overcome your OCD, but that is just a belief and not a fact, the truth is, you can if you want.

Sometimes you have to face it and go through it to overcome it, otherwise you will never be free from your OCD and nothing will ever change.

Isn't better to experience a few minutes of discomfort and suffering, rather than spending your whole life suffering.

The more you do this, the easier it will get, and within a few weeks you may overcome something that you thought you were stuck with you for the rest of your life.

What you do repeatedly becomes a habit of behavior

When you succumb to your fears and compulsions you will become weaker and your fears will grow stronger giving them more power over you. 

Once you start to do what scares you the most, it will be the turning point for you and you will start to take back control of your life and your situations.

What people want the most, is to feel at peace with themselves, but unfortunately their levels of anxiety, stress and negative thoughts become out of control.

Sometimes to be able to access that state of peace and control,you have to face your fears head on, and just refuse to do your rituals, despite how you feel. 

Your compulsions are designed to push you to take action to prevent something bad from happening, this is a useful process if you are genuinely at risk, but this mechanism can get out of control. 

To overcome your OCD, then you have to start to reset this process and put yourself back in control.

You are more powerful that your feelings and compulsions, and once you see your feelings as just feelings that cannot stop you doing anything you want, then you will start to gain the courage to stand up to the bully within you

When I was young, I wanted to jump off the top of the high diving board and into the swimming pool.

I walked up the steps and proceeded to move towards the edge of the diving board, when those anxious thoughts and feelings surfaced and started to try and convince me not to do it and go back down the steps.

I spent about fifteen minutes battling with my thoughts and feelings, whilst all the time there were young children just casually walking to the edge of the diving board and jumping straight off.

Eventually, I just ignored my thoughts and feelings, and I just did it.

Afterwards, I realized it was not as bad as I thought, and I might as well have done it straight away.

Your thoughts, compulsion and feelings, cannot stop you, once you commit yourself to do it.

Have you ever considered, standing up to your OCD, and just stop doing all the rituals.

Ask yourself, if you did not perform all the rituals, what realistically do you think will happen.

Up until now, you have always given into your fears and compulsions, you probably have never thought of or tried to do nothing and see the feelings and compulsions out.

The thing with fear and compulsions is, if you embrace them and you allow them to continue, just feel the feelings and stand your ground, then they will soon subside and so will the grip they had on you.

Most people usually either fight with their thoughts and feelings or they surrender and obey them, but when you do this, you re-enforce them and make them stronger.

In the long run it is less painful to spend a few minutes of putting up with the discomfort than it is to spend a life time a slave and victim to them.

Many people spend long periods of their life, suffering with severe cases of OCD, until one day, they reach a point where they cannot cope anymore, and they decide enough is enough, and they finally take action to overcome their OCD.

When they do finally take back control, they wish they had done it a lot earlier.

Avoid trying to suppress your thoughts and emotions

Most people think it is not normal to have negative thoughts and feelings of discomfort, but you cannot go all through your life without feeling a bit of discomfort from time to time.

Rather than trying to suppress or avoid your negative thoughts and feelings, a better approach, is to learn how to react differently and minimize your levels of discomfort to the absolute minimum.

Because people think that they are not supposed to have any negative thoughts and feelings, when they start having them, they try to fight with them or defeat them.

What most people are not aware of, is, when you try and fight against, or you attempt to resist or thoughts and feelings, your negative thoughts and feelings will fight you back even harder.

This does not mean that you have to become submissive to your thoughts and feelings or allow them to dictate your behaviors and actions, it just means you need to process the emotion and teach your mind and body to react in different ways.

First, we decide we don't like the negative or unwanted thoughts and feelings, then we start to feel bad and frustrated because we're having them.

What you should really be doing, is starting to understand, why you're having these negative thoughts and feelings.

You should not try to suppress your thoughts and emotions.

Your negative thoughts and feelings are an indication that something is out of balance on the inside of yourself.

When you try and suppress your negative thoughts, feelings and emotions, or you use any other forms of treatments or tactics to distract yourself or mask the feelings, or you fail to address the root cause of your suffering. 

Your body will function even worse and it will cause more stress, negative feelings and unbalance, and you will continue to allow your negative thoughts and feelings to rule and run your life, actions, decisions and behaviors.

You are not designed to suppress or or try to force our thoughts and feelings away, often negative emotions are an inside indication, that we need to change something.

When you continue to ignore your problems or you carry on trying to fight, suppress or repress your unwanted thoughts and feelings, it will lead to emotional issues, and feelings of hopelessness, mental health issues and loss of control.

Often you feel anxious because your mind does not like the not knowing.

When you're having those what if thoughts and imaginations, which is your brain doing a risk assessment, let you know.

"If that happens, I know I'll be OK"

The primary job of your brain is to move you away from any pain or danger and guide you to pleasure.

Unfortunately, with OCD, your brain, is moving you towards pain, by trying by over protecting you, and your fight or flight protection system, has got stuck in survival and safety mode.

To move out of survival mode, do not try to avoid feeling a bit uncomfortable, do not become sensitive or frustrated by your anxious thoughts.

Accept, that it is perfectly normal to feel uncomfortable, and everybody has anxious or intrusive thoughts, so instead of trying to avoid them, suppress them or force them away.

  1. Observe and acknowledge, but do nothing 
  2. Do not react badly or act on them
  3. Allow and encourage your mind to think them for a minute
  4. Practice remaining calm around your thoughts and feelings 
  5. Feel the feelings and be OK with them
  6. Then let them go peacefully without judging yourself or analyzing the situation
The more you do this, the more you will find that you have less and less trouble with unwanted thoughts and negative feelings.

Do the things that terrify you the most

So confront the feared situation, do the things what terrifies you the most, face it, process it and move through it. 

If you have a fear of contamination touch something dirty, simply ignore your feelings because they are tricking you into believing something bad is about to happen when it is not.

The thing to do is don't think about it, the more you focus on it the more likely you are to give in, don't back off just to alleviate your feeling

You can try distracting yourself if you wish, keep letting you know you're not going to die, embrace the fear and go for it. 

The same applies with the compulsions, they too are just annoying feelings, a bit like your parents pushing you to perform tasks when you were a child.

But you again don't have to bow down to the compulsions, they cannot make you or force you to perform the unnecessary rituals, you are in control, if you notice the compulsions and you're getting the thoughts and images flashing in your mind, take no notice. 

Reassure yourself that even though it feels like something bad is about to happen, I am not going to die, it is just my body trying to protect me, because the only way to deal with fear and anxiety is to face and confront the things that you fear head on. 

So at some point you are going to have to face the beasts, this means doing the things that scares you or whatever it is that is activating your OCD symptoms. 

This is the only known way of rewiring your brain and reversing the negative associations, because your mind has the capacity to change if it is given new instructions. 

Yes, this does mean you will have to go through the discomfort barrier, but surely it is best to put yourself in the feared situation once rather than having it control you for the rest of your life. When you do sum up the courage to confront your fears, remember the danger only really exists in your imagination.

Whatever your compulsions and obsessive behaviours are, the principals of overcoming them are the same. 

If you wash your hands repeatedly just do it once, and walk away, accept and learn to tolerate your sensations of anxiety, embrace and allow your feelings the pass through you and away. 

People know you don't need to wash your hands until they're red raw, they know you don't need to check things over and over again, keep arranging things or spending hours cleaning and cleaning, they just don't know how to break the cycle. 

Your minds and body works together, the way they operate is by feelings and neural mental associations, nothing will change until you change these negative associations. 

If you do nothing, then your mind and body will carry on doing what it has learned to do through force of habit because it actually thinks it is doing its job of trying to protect you.

If you're really struggling, try to gradually reduce the amount of times you do your rituals,

Let's say, you believe that you have to wash your hands twenty times.

The first day, make it your intention, to only wash them nineteen times, then the next day, do it eighteen until you get it down to washing them once.

OCD is more intense at times of stress and tension

Your OCD will be more severe and much harder to control at times when you are experiencing too much stress and tension. 

Stress and tension makes us feel stupid and clumsy, and our decision making and judgements become poor.

When we are in a stressful or tense state, we shift over into survival mode and our brain and senses will start to scan our environment for threats.

If you suffer with OCD, then stress and tension, can make it hard for you to think clearly, stay in control and work things out logically.

When your mind switches over to survival mode, this can make your OCD more intense, as your brain will interpret the tension and feelings of stress, as something bad is going to happen, because, why else would your body be primed for action.

Because, of the mind body connection, your mind uses your body as feedback.

Your muscles, emotions and the symptoms of stress are all linked into your fight or flight process.

When we feel threatened, we go into one of the fight or flight responses, where our bodies either prime us to run away or we go into the guarded and protected freeze mode.

Most people who suffer with OCD, often suffer with anxiety, stress or they tend to worry a lot.

When you worry a lot or if you suffer with anxiety, then this instinctive response can become habitual, especially when it is consistently repeated.

Sometimes, if a person is shy, then they can also adopt this insecure posture and stature.

Some of the symptoms and reactions of this flight or flight response are

  • Your body shortens in stature 
  • Your breathing becomes shallow 
  • Increased circulation  
  • Release of adrenaline into body 
  • Tighten of the muscles 
  • Head pushes forwards and the back of the head gets pulled down 
  • Neck becomes stiff and contracted  
  • Shoulders become hunched 
  • Arms and legs become stiffened

Any time you face a stressful, fearful or challenging situation, you can momently and automatically shift into this guarded stature.

Some people can even get permanently stuck in this posture of fear and anxiety.

This guarded posture causes the stiffen of the neck, which is followed by other physical changes and postural reactions in the body.

Reducing your stress and tension, will help you to feel more in control and you should feel less anxious and threatened, giving you more control over your decisions and actions.

If you notice you are going into this guarded stature, you need to free and relax your neck of tension and allow your head to be released so it rest freely on top of your head, balanced forward and up.

Although you should avoid entering this guarded and insecure posture, you must avoid stiffening your body as this is just as bad.

Many people try and stand and sit up to straight and too tall, often they will try to compensate for their slouched and guarded posture by lifting up their chest and raising their chin, which will cause your spine to curve and it will cause the stiffening of your neck and back.

If you are unsure, there are many Alexander Technique Videos on You tube.

Once you return to your natural and free upright poise and balance, where you are free of tension, where your breathing returns back to normal, then you will shift out of that heightened alert state and you will be left feeling calmer and more in control.

A return to a normal life after compulsive disorder, obsessive can happen, but you must be determined not to give in and you need the attitude that you're going to do everything you possibly can to beat this condition.

When we worry a part of the brain immediately detects the problem, a signal is then sent to another part of the brain, which makes you feel anxious, this is to force you to focus on the mistake until you have fixed the problem.

Once the problem has been resolved, or you have done what you needed to do another part of the brain moves your attention onto something else and your anxiety levels then drop. 

However, people with OCD get stuck and the mental shift to focus your attention onto something else does not happen and you get trapped in the fear loop. 

When you feel relaxed you will feel less anxious 

OCD fits into the category of fear and fear is the polar opposite state too calmness and control.

People with OCD focus on fear instead of pleasure and inner calm.

When you train your mind to find fear, it will find it, when you focus your mind to find good, it will bring all that is good too you.

At the start of your recovery, you will experience feelings of discomfort, in your moments of discomfort, it is better to feel uncomfortable and hopeful rather than feeling uncomfortable and fearful.

Fear and OCD are a bully when you cower and you become subordinate to it, but it is weak and feeble when you choose to embrace it and smile at it, and you do what you want, despite how uncomfortable it feels.

No matter how bad you feel, there is always a better feeling option available to you.

You were born with the ability to think, feel and act how you choose, and a simple adjustments in your thoughts can get the positive feelings going.

When you feel relaxed, you will feel less threatened and more in control, so instead of fighting with your OCD, put your attention into doing things that will help to relax you, your dominant attention should be to feel good and at peace with yourself.

Last thing at night is the best time to relax and clear your mind of any unwanted thoughts or emotional baggage.

Although positive thinking is good, a much better way to calm your mind is to practice calming your body and changing the way that you feel.

If you're feeling worried or you're having those repetitive negative and unwanted thoughts, then you cannot just override them with positive thoughts.

Before you can begin to think better feeling thoughts, it is wise to change the way you feel first, and when you change the way you feel, your thoughts will begin to match your good feelings.

Relaxing, listening to soothing and relaxing music and meditation are great ways to calm your mind and body, the best time to do it, is when you go to bed, as this will help you to sleep better and you will wake up feeling more energized and relaxed.

If you go to bed feeling fearful, worried or anxious, then you will wake up feeling the same, we carry the emotional baggage and feelings from the previous day through into the new day, therefore it is better, to leave all the negative stuff, behind you, where it firmly belongs.

If you wake up in a good mood, you will have more energy to face and overcome your OCD.

Exercise is also a good way to help boost your mood, fear and there is always an underlying fear or consequence behind your OCD.

Fear is an emotional and physical state, relaxing and exercising will help to change your state, both physically and emotionally. 

Again, quit fighting and struggling with your feelings and emotions, and just let them carry on and pace by peacefully.

You do not need to keep on justifying and trying to find and explanation, for your thoughts and feelings, we all experience them, so try not to be too alarmed or bothered by them.

Compare your fearful thoughts and feelings to a wasp, if a wasp comes to you, and you panic and fight it, then it will become more aggressive and it will attack you and hang around even more, but if you stay calm and do nothing, the wasp will soon give up bothering you and it will move away.

Sometimes, if we are sensitive or intolerant to certain foods, then this can cause a disruption in your body and mind, affecting your feelings, mind and emotions.

It is also important to get your daily allowance and dosage of nutrients. Magnesium is classed as the relaxation mineral, and it helps to reduce stress and anxiety, so make sure you get your daily dosage of foods that contain plenty of magnesium.

Life After OCD Can Happen-A New Treatment Created By A Former Sufferer

3% of us suffer from OCD. The obsessions. The worry. The repetition. Repeated hand washing. Aligning objects a certain way. Worrying about impulses. 

Having to cancel out "bad thoughts" with "good thoughts." It can seriously affect our minds, and our freedom, but it is curable.  

The best advice you can possibly get is from a former sufferer who has lived it and suffered with it and who has already beaten it, because they know all about OCD and what you're going through, they also know how to defeat it, just knowing others have overcome it itself can give you great inspiration, faith and new found hope.

Luckily the ex-sufferer is also a world renowned psychology expert and self-development leader so he was able to do something about it; and then pass on that advice to everybody else. 

The name of the ex sufferer is Bradley Thompson and he's launched a powerful new website that shows you precisely how to banish OCD for good. 

Just follow his simple step-by-step system - and you'll never have your mind "plagued" ever again.

This is a natural, effective solution you can learn and apply yourself at home and you don't even have to let anybody else know. 

It does not involve any medication or embarrassing and awkward trips to visit psychologists or psychiatrists, you cannot put a price on the quality of your life. 

If you go ahead with this program, stick at it even if you have relapses, because in the end if you have faith you will overcome it you will.


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