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Erase Bad Memories

Do you feel mentally and emotionally, fatigued and overwhelmed? Are you struggling to cope and live with chronic feelings of stress, anxiety, anger, negative emotions and fear.

Once you have had a negative or traumatic experience. If you do not process those intense feelings and emotions, and the let it go, you will create a negative, bad or traumatic memory, that will become ingrained into your emotional brain.

A negative experience or bad memory, causes, repeated patterns of negative feeling and automatic ways, of responding and thinking.

These patterns and ways of responding and thinking, can then lead to unpleasant physical feelings of discomfort, illness and pain in the body. 

When your body is in a state of stress or negativity, it will lower or shut down your immune system, which can make you more susceptible, to colds and viruses, it is also make it hard for you to sleep and focus on all the positive and good things, that you should be focusing on.

A bad or traumatic memory can consume your mind and fill your body with tense and negative feelings and emotions, making it almost impossible for you to relax, unwind and be yourself, making your life a whole lot harder, than it should be.

In life, you are either in a negative or fearful state or you're your calm, balanced and resting state. If you do not know how to or you do not have the tools to release and detach your fight or flight response or negative emotional associations, from your bad or traumatic memory, you will continue to suffer.

Your inner being and body, wants you to return back to is natural state of inner peace, calm and balance.

The trouble is, you bad or traumatic memory, is holding you stuck in a state of fear, depression, despair or negativity, which is causing a state of emotional and physical imbalance and disharmony, which can lead to many other illnesses, addictions, emotional disorders and obsessive behaviors.

Bad or traumatic memories, also prevent you from being yourself, limit you in many negative ways and stop you from enjoying yourself and being grounded in the here and now, which is your most powerfulest and productive state.

There are ways and methods that can help you break those negative patterns, responses and associations which will allow you to release and free yourself from the constant stress, fear, anxiety, truma, depression, hurtand sadness, that your bad memory is inflicting on you.

Using your bad memory to motivate you to achieve great things

As human beings, we have been either, not been taught, how to process and release our emotions and bad memories or we have been taught how to hold onto emotions and bad experiences.

In doing so, we create energy blockages and resistance, in our body, that leads to chronic stress, anxiety and depression, which is not good fo us, as  our emotions affect our health, well-being and quality of life.

You can think positive and do, what seems to be all the right things, but if you are feeling negative, stressed and out of balance and harmony on the inside, then nothing is going to work.

If you're struggling with a bad or traumatic memory, then it important to start to detach your fear signals and your fight or flight response, from all your external and internal triggers and begin to replace them with more calmer and appropriate responses.

Our body responds exactly the same way, to both our external and internal triggers and perceived threats.

This means that our bad memories, negative thoughts and imaginings, can affect our biology and physiology.

In life, we are either in our fight or flight response and survival mode or we are in the calm, rest and repair state and our fears, bad memories, perceptions and our focus of attention, is what determines and controls, which state we are in.

Once we create a bad memory, then we can constantly, internally see ourselves, within our minds, in that negative or traumatic experience, again and again, and we live it and feel it as if it is happening all over again, for real. 

Everytime, your mind and senses, detect something that was remotely associated with your bad memory, which could be:

  • Colours
  • Words
  • Sounds
  • People
  • Locations
  • Feelings
  • Times
  • Thoughts
  • Images
  • Smells

Your emotional part of your brain and nervous system will react as if your bad or negative experience is happening all over again, and those intense and strong, stressful and negative feelings, will automatically get activated.

If you're really struggling and suffering at the moment, be aware that these negative feelings and emotions, can be used as an inner signal, that you need to do things differently, find better ways and release these blocked emotions.

So you can grow and come through your bad or traumatic ordeal, a better, stronger and wiser you.

Help To Process, Release And Heal Your Bad Memories

If you're ready to heal and move forwards in a new positive direction.You may be interested in these natural and safe methods and tools below, to help you break those negative and stressful patterns, responses and associations, so you can return back to your natural calm and repair state, freeing you to live your life in peace.

Techniques To Heal Emotional Wounds And Erase Bad Memories 

Let all your suffering pass

If you're really suffering right now, the most important thing you need to know is. All emotional pain and suffering will melt away, if you start to detach and bring down the intensity of those strong feelings and emotions. 

Once your autonomic nervous system is returned back to its natural calm and balanced state of harmony, inner peace and balance, you will be free of all your immense pain, stress and suffering.

All negative feelings and emotions are a direct result of a blockage and disturbance in your bodies energetic system. This will shift your body into a negative state of disharmony and imbalance.

After the initial shock of a negative experience or traumatic event. Your whole physiology gets thrown into a emotional, physical and psychological state of disharmony and imbalance.

All these chemical, emotional and physical changes and responses in your body can feel very overwhelming and out of control.

It can become quite a shock to you and you will naturally want to return back to being happy and calm. 

Very often, people will find it harder to deal with their internal state than the actual bad experience itself.

Because your bad memory is making you feel stressed, upset, low or angry. You will probably look for ways that will heal your pain or things that will make you feel better.

The trouble is. Most people have not been taught how to manage their feelings and emotions or how to let go of their painful past, therefore; they hold onto or they they try to resist, suppress, numb or blockout their feelings, bad memories and emotions.

Because of their lack of understanding, many people will resort to trying anything, in a desperate bid to heal their pain and suffering, including suppressing or numbing out the pain and suffering tactics.

The problem with these temporary coping tactics is. You simply cannot suppress or outrun your feelings and emotions. 

The suppression, fighting or numbing out the pain approach, at best. Will only provide you with a bit of temporary relief and some of the numbing out tactics can lead to addictive behaviors.

As for, suppressing and resistance tactics. They will only make your feelings of discomfort worse, more intense and more prolonged. 

Resistance always, leads to more suffering, anxiety, stress and pain. It is far better for you to give your mind, feelings and emotions, absolutely no resistance at all.

Thankfully, there are much better ways to ease your pain, stress and emotional suffering, without having to fight with your, mind, feelings and emotions or without having to resort to suppressing, coping or numbing tactics.

Instead of trying to defeat, suppress or resist your bad memory and negative feelings. A far much better approach would be to learn how to replace anxiety and stress with calm and peace of mind.

What causes us to feel anxious, fearful, sad and negative is when our mind and body enters a state of imbalance and disharmony, which can be triggered by our negative and traumatic bad memories.

If you're like most people, then you're probably feeling a bit frustrated and confused to why you cannot seem to forget about you bad memory or why you cannot seem to free yourself from your suffering.

If you have experienced a traumatic or negative experience. Then you have already suffered enough and you no doubt want to put your painful past behind you, so you can move on and get on with your life. 

Some people are subjected to some pretty horrific sights, abuse and experiences, and it is bad enough suffering at the time it was happening. 

But the last thing you want is to carry on suffering, long after your bad or traumatic experience is over. 

The good news is. It does not matter how long you have been suffering, because you can take begin to reduce your stress, tension and anxiety, you can let go of your suffering, and you to get your life back on track.

Why you feel trapped in the pain of your bad experience

People who experience a bad memory or traumatic event then basically rehearse and relive their negative experience over and over again.

Because the body and mind connection, the body responds to what's taking place within the mind, this process then has a knock on effect that can cause unwanted and repetitive negative thoughts, obsessive and addictive behaviors, anxiety, stress, anger, sadness and guilt.

Each time you relive your bad memory or you try to control or suppress your thoughts and feelings, you will strengthen the emotional associations and the intensity of the feelings.

The reason why so many people find it so hard to overcome their truma or negative experience is because the stronger the emotional reactions you have to the negative and traumatic experiences in your life.

The higher degree of emotional and physical feelings you will experience. It has a lot to do with the cause and effect scenario.

The more attention you pay to the cause (Your bad experience). The more your brain will create a snapshot, story or mini movie in the mind, of you your bad memory.

Long term memories are formed from highly charged, negative emotional experiences and until that emotional intensity is decreased, the bad memory will carry on causing your pain, stress and suffering.

When left untreated, what then happens is. People then become trapped and they then live their life, neurologically and emotionally from within, the circuitry of their bad or traumatic experience.

Because of the high levels of emotional intensity. They then become a prisoner and victim too their bad experience, on a chemical, psychological, emotional and physically level.

The reason why people keep on recalling their bad memory is because of the amount of emotional attachment and significance they have given it.

This can then generate high levels of stress and anxiety which are linked to your survival mechanism. What the stress, tension and feelings of anxiety are signalling to your brain is.

You need to pay attention to your bad memory, because it will help to protect you and guard you, so you can be fully prepared, so you can prevent it from happening again.

The truth is. You don't need all these stressful and negative feelings to keep you safe and prevent you from experiencing the same horrible fate again, as logic can do the same job, without all the bad feelings and response.

It then becomes very hard to focus their attention on anything else, except their bad memory, because of all the high levels of stress, anxiety of low feeling moods.

Most people then reach a state of feeling helpless and they come to believe and wrongly accept that they have no control over their emotional reactions or they they are not aware that they can reduce the in intensity of their feelings and emotions.

If you allow your bad memory or traumatic experience to linger on then that one negative experience can destroy the quality of your life and cause you immense emotional suffering for many years to come.

A bad memory can cause you to spend most of your life stuck in a state of fear, anger, guilt, sorrow, depression, anxiety and stress. 

Which can cause you to constantly anticipate the worst case scenario, because your mind is basing your future and your now, on your past negative experiences, which cancels out all positive options and possibilities.

This pattern can keep repeating upon itself, where you're always creating the worse case scenario in your mind, then you emotionally and mentally, embrace and live your life in the negative emotions of your past.

All this does is, it conditions your mind and body to react as if you're environment is a place of danger or a place of doom and little hope. 

When you repeatedly do this over and over again, your body will get stuck in a state of high anxiety or negativity, which will become a subconscious program and pattern of behavior which can cause you to suffer in the now for something that happened years ago, which is no way to live your life.

Each time you're reminded of your bad experience or you relive it in your mind it will trigger a stressful or strong emotional response and when this happens on an almost daily process, your body will never have a chance to return back to its natural calm and balanced state.

Your bad experience can dictate your mood and state of being, and after a while you can end up having one long and progressive emotional and physical reaction, which can have a devastatin negative impact on your wellness, life and health.

The reality is. Things rarely get better by themselves, in most cases they tend to get worse. But it does not have to be like that if you learn how to change your emotional reactions and even remove them completely.

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What is a bad memory?

When you experience trauma, your whole biology and physiology changes into a negative or fearful state.

If you do not process and release the emotion and change your physical state, you can become stuck in the negative, stressful and fearful state, that you experienced during and shortly after your negative or traumatic experience.

Within our brains, we have a recorder that records and stores everything that happens to us, including all the contexts of your past experiences and all the physical and emotional feelings that you  experienced at the time it happened.

These then become a learned subconscious behavior and habit and our minds will then use our filed emotional memories to gauge how we should think, act, feel and behave in the future.

A bad memory or experience will throw your whole physiology out of balance and disharmony causing a disturbance in your bodies energetic system.

In this negative and fearful state of imbalance and disharmony. You may experience feelings of discomfort, tension, low moods, anxiety and stress.

The reason for this can be because you have attached your fight or flight  survival response or negative feelings and stressful responses to your bad memory.

A negative or traumatic memory can activate the emotional part of your brain, causing the constant release of adrenaline, and the stress hormone cortisol that triggers a stressful and physical response in your body such as muscle tension, rapid heartbeat and shallow breathing.

This is the none thinking all reactional, emotional, reptilian and primitive part of your brain, that only deals with memories, responses and feelings. 

These negative, fearful and stressful responses are automatic and they will always override any logical or rational thinking.

When you have endured or witnessed the pain and stress of a bad experience. Your brain will record everything that is happening to you and everything that was is going on in your environment at the time your bad experience occurred.

Let's say for example:

If there were sirens or gunfire going on, or smoke and fire, during your bad experience, your brain would store the data for future reference, and your brain would attach these sounds to your fight or flight response mechanism.

These are known as neural associations and pattern recognition and they will become your emotional trigger memories.

Any time you focus on or you're reminded of your bad memory or you learn that you have to face a similar type of situation, your emotional will automatically, trigger a negative, fearful or stressful response.

Let's say for example. You are a war veteran who has witnessed some horrific experiences. Any time you are walking down a street, and you hear a siren or loud bang, or you come across a fire.

The part of your brain that protects you and keeps you safe. Will automatically recognize these triggers as being similar to what happened during your bad experience and it will automatically link them to, you're about to face a dangerous situation again. 

Because this part of your mind does not deal with logic or reasoning, only patterns, associations, feelings and responses, it will involuntarily activate your fight or flight response.

Your brain cannot distinguish between what happened during the time of your bad or traumatic experience and a normal everyday event, even though it has no relevance to you. 

When a person who has not had a bad experience hears a siren going off or they hear a sudden loud bang, they might be startled for a few brief seconds.

But because they have not connected their fight or flight to the noise or images, they will quickly return back to a state of calm.

However, in the case of the person who has experienced a traumatic event. Because their brain has learned to associate danger with the sound of a siren, things unfold completely differently.

When your senses send data to your brain and it finds a negative emotional pattern recognition and an association with danger. 

Your mind will flood the body full of adrenaline and your fight or flight response will go off, time and time again, even in the absence of any real danger or threats.

Why trying to suppress, numb or resist your bad memory, makes the feelings more intense?

People use all sorts of techniques and methods to try and numb out or relieve themselves of all the emotional pain and stress that there negative experiences are causing them.

Some of these methods may be helpful. but some methods can actually make your situation and suffering even worse whilst others are unhealthy and only offer temporary relief.

For some. Their pain and suffering becomes so unbearable that they often resort to alcohol and addictive substances in their desperation to try and ease all their pain, hurt and suffering.

One treatment that people use to help those who have experienced a traumatic event. Is to to get them to talk through their traumatic event, sometimes over and over in the hope it will process and reduce the emotions.

The problem with talking about your bad experience for some is, it can do the exact opposite and make things even worse. It is OK to talk about, if you want to talk about it, but if you're trying to forget or suppress your bad memory, talking about it will activate those negative feelings.

The reason for this is because. Talking forces you to relive your bad or traumatic experience over and over again in your mind, which will activate and intensify all your emotional pain, anxiety, anger and stress.

Each time you talk about it or you deliberately try and suppress it, resist it or forget about it. You will activate the emotional energy charge.

Every time you relive or recall your bad memory in your mind. Because your bad memory is still classified as active, your body will respond as if your bad experience is happening again, for real.

Because your body and nervous system cannot tell the difference between what is happening in your mind and what is real. 

Even though you are now safe or your bad experience is over, the negative feelings and responses will feel very real to you. 

The more you're activating the bad memory again. The more you're, further ingraining your bad experience deeper into your mind and psyche which makes the feelings and emotions stronger and more intense. 

Even trying to suppress, block out, numb, forget, not think about or any other form of resistance tactics can be equally as bad.

Ideally, you want to begin to lower the emotional intensity and change the physical responses, not make them stronger and more persistent.

After a while. Traumatic or negative memories can become so deeply ingrained in your emotional part of your brain. 

They will operate at a level that is below your conscious control and beyond you logical thinking and reasoning.

What this means is. Your thoughts, feelings and reactions can be automatically triggered by environmental triggers, factors, patterns and reminders, without you having any conscious control over them.

Anything remotely associated with your bad experience that you come across in your environment or on the television or radio. Can trigger a physical and emotional response within the mind and body without even thinking about it.

This may cause you a lot of confusion, especially if you're having a fight or flight response, without you being consciously aware of any of your triggers.

Even, learning that you might have to face one of your possible triggers can evoke a stressful and emotional response.

The difference between a normal memory and a traumatic memory is. A normal memory, will be become a brief impression in your brain, before it gets stored in your long term memory bank. The normal memory then quickly fades. 

Therefore, the memory shifts from a status of being in the present moment and happening now, to being classified as a past memory that is no longer in your conscious awareness.

The memory is then processed and stored deep within your brain, should you want to recall the memory at any point. This allows you to get on with your everyday life.

However. In the case of a bad or traumatic memory. Instead of processing the memory and filing it within your mind.

The bad memory gets blocked which also causes an energetic block in your bodies energy system, which causes a kind of, stressful pressure cooker situation within your mind and body.

Because your bad memory has become lodged and firmly stuck in your conscious awareness. Your bad or traumatic experience remains an active and live, emotional memory. 

Which makes your body feel as if your bad experience is happening all over again. Keeping you stuck in a negative state of being or always close to a fight or flight moment.

Watch your fears melt away be learning how to handle your feelings and bad memory

Fear is the driving force behind most of our bad memories and learned behaviors and our fears are first created by what has happened to us or the fear of what might happen.

Because you can even traumatize yourself about a future event or situation that has not even happened, once you have experienced a bad or traumatic situation

Fear can also trigger feelings of sadness and depression. If you have lost something or someone that means something to you, the fear of not getting that things or person back can lead to low moods and sadness.

A bad relationship memory can also cause you to fear the same thing happening to you again or it can make you scared that you may not ever find love again.

If you have experienced a traumatic, abusive or negative experience then you will attach your fight or flight response to that thing, event, person or situation.

But it is not just your external negative experience that is causing all your pain and suffering. In fact fear and insecurity has more to do with your interior world and state, then it has to do with external situations.

Fear can severely limit you and it prevents you from doing all the things that you want to do. Nearly all stress, obsessive behaviors and thinking and worry, is fear related.

Everytime you recall or relive your bad memory, your body will react with fear because it is responding as if the whole nightmare situation is happening again.

You're having all the anxiety and emotional and physical responses because your brain is trying to protect you from the same bad thing happening to you again.

The reason why you're responding with fear when you focus on or you're reminded of your bad memory is because the danger and threat now exists internally. 

The more you try to resist or suppress your bad memory or the more you attempt to stop your fear, the stronger and more intense those negative feelings will become.

Your external fears represent your internal self and mental and emotional state and your ability to handle the situations and people that originally caused you bad memory and your ability to handle the actual fear and anxiety itself.

Of course, if your bad memory was caused by a very traumatic experience or you were abused, then you don't want to have to ever be put in the same bad situation again.

The trouble is, bad memories can make you scared of having to face similar types of situations again in the future, because you have a fear of the consequences or you don't think you can handle the situation or the fear itself.

Fear of the consequences or not thinking you can handle the situation, whatever life chucks at you or the feelings of discomfort are one of the single biggest causes of fear. 

Again, if you try and stop, fight, suppress or resist your feelings, thoughts and bad memory, they will come back stronger. 

But if you let yourself know. That you can handle your bad memory, your anxious thoughts and your fearful feelings, then those feelings will decrease and fade away all by themselves.

How do you let yourself know you can handle your bad memory, anxious thoughts and feelings.

By learning to step back from them and not to react to them, like we've already mentioned.

Just feel them, let them happen and let them go.

The more you can begin to develop the faith and trust in yourself that.

"Whatever happens, you can handle it" 

The more your fear will lose its grip and hold on you. This includes your thoughts, feelings and bad memories.

The reason why you want to forget about your bad memory or suppress it is because you can't handle thinking about it or talking about and you can't handle the associated feelings.

Talking about or thinking about your bad memory is not what is causing you all the pain, fear and stress. What is causing you all the emotional suffering and physical discomfort, is not wanting to think about or talk about it.

When we try and suppress or stop our thoughts and feelings our mind will return to them more often and our body will react with even more fear, because of the amount of emotional significance and attachment you're giving them.

When you do the exact opposite, and you consciously let the thoughts and feelings happen and you even encourage your mind and feelings to carry on, your thoughts and feelings will begin to subside all by themselves. 

What can you do to remove your bad memory?

The opposite to fear, anger and anxiety is calm and balanced, the opposite to sadness is happiness, therefore what you should be working on is to learn how to change the way you feel.

The areas that you will benefit tremendously if you work on them, are: 

  • Detaching your fight or flight response, negative and stressful feelings away from your bad memory
  • Learning how to be mindful
  • Spending time relaxing, reducing your stress and releasing tension
  • Keeping active
  • Posture/physiology

Mindfulness is an important part of your recovery and healing (more about mindfulness, later on)

Knowing how to sense any feelings of stress, negativity, anxiety and pain developing, so you learn how to quickly change your state, will help you to quickly melt away any pain, stress or emotional suffering.

The common, but disastrous approach many people make is they do the exact opposite to what they should be doing, where they try and fight, deliberately forget about, suppress or blockout their thoughts, feelings and emotions.

All these kind of tactics, don't work, in fact they make your negative feelings and emotions, more intense and stronger.

Instead of trying to fight your anxiety and fear. It is much better, to detach and step back from your mind and body, and just allow your thoughts, feelings and emotions to happen.

Where people go wrong is. They try to control their fear and anxiety. However, any attempt to control your fear and anxiety or if you use safety or avoidance tactics, means that your anxiety is controlling you still.

Acknowledge and embrace the feelings, step back from them, feel them and let them happen, when you start to feel calmer, you can the redirect your thoughts or change your perceptions and beliefs.

Most people just want to feel good and at peace again, so they can move on. The trouble is, you cannot feel good, happy and calm, if you haven't healed your negative emotional wounds and trauma.

The secret is to bring down your feelings of discomfort or strip away your negative feelings and emotional and physical responses away from your bad memory, so you can become emotional free.

Because when you're in a calm and happy state of balance and flow, all your suffering and pain will melt away and pass.

Different negative experience trigger different emotional and physical symptoms

Depending on whether your bad or traumatic experience was a traumatic or upsetting experience such as.

  • Physical or verbal abuse
  • Witnessing or experiencing a horrific event
  • Loss or bereavement
  • Relationship breakup  
  • Shame, ridicule or embarrassment
  • Personal tragedy
  • Personal negative experience
  • You've hurt somebody else or done something bad to others

Although techniques like mindfulness, exercise and relaxation are going to benefit you tremendously, some people may need to do a bit of extra emotional healing and clearing work.

Healing your emotional trauma should involve your overall general well-being as well as learning how to change and manage your state.

It may require you using several different techniques as well as relaxing deeply each day, exercising and eating plenty of high nutritious foods.

Any form of relaxing such as meditation is going to benefit you tremendously as it will help you break your stress cycle and switch your body back to a blissful, calm and balanced state of inner peace and flow.

People focus on, their negative thoughts, imaginings and feelings that are a match to their current emotional and physical state, then they try to resist and suppress their thoughts, imaginings and their bad memories.

When really it is best, to allow your mind to experience every single thoughts, memory or imagining, otherwise, if you try to suppress all of your thoughts, memories and imaginings, you will create a fear of them, which will make them worst and much more intense.

Also, when you focus on you resist and fight with your negative past, all of the time, you will blockout and dismiss and alternative positive thoughts and perceptions that are not a match to their current emotional state.

The first emotions that you will experience and feel, straight after you have had a traumatic or negative or sad experience or bad news are fear, anxiety or sadness. 

When you do not possess the tools and techniques to treat, process and let go of your bad experience, that negative experience and learned, state of fear, stress or sadness can become a bad memory and a new, normal state of being. 

Very quickly, your bad experience and your negative emotional responses can become a stored subconscious program and automatic way of responding.

The reason why so many people struggle to treat and heal their emotional scars and wounds, is because they don't know how to change, detach and reduce the emotional intensity.

Many people try to think positive, and although positive thinking is great. It won't necessary change your learned subconscious habits, behaviors, programming and emotional responses.

The natural techniques mentioned below, can help you to change your negative emotional responses, habits and learned behaviors.

If you're really struggling, hurting and suffering, you may want to consider thinking about giving self hypnosis a go. 

If so, you might be interested in releasing your bad memories, self hypnosis recording or the Erase Bad Memories session designed specifically to heal bad memories by America's number one hypnotherapist.

If you're really struggling and having a bad time, because of your bad or traumatic experience then you might want to consider giving EFT a try.

Because, Emotional Freedom Techniqueshas also been proven to be very successful at helping to relieve anxiety, trauma, depression, anger, anxiety and fear, releasing people from the chains and imprisonment, that keep them mentally, physically and emotionally, bound to their painful past.

Practisting the relaxing art of mindfulness

Mindfulness is a good and natural way to help you reduce and change the emotional and physical reactions that are being triggered by your bad memory.

The best way to get the maximum benefits of mindfulness is to find somewhere quiet where you can shut yourself from the rest of the world and any outside distractions.

The get even better results. Have an exercise workout before you try using meditation mindfulness, to burn of any excese high levels of energy.

Quick mindfulness exercise for bad memories

Find somewhere where you can sit or lay down.

Don't rush into trying anything.

Just let your body relax and slowly release any tension.

Start to take some slow deeper breaths.

Breathe all the way in, then release the breath, don't forcefully, push all the way out. 

Then repeat for about five minutes.

If you have been feeling anxious, tense or stressed.

Then you may find it hard to initially relax and unwind.

If you're struggling.

Take it one step at a time.

Take a few deep breaths, then relax and slowly build up the amount of deep breaths you take, each time.

When you're feeling relaxed.

Deliberately focus on and recall your bad memory.

As you keep focus on your bad. Work on relaxing your body and taking some deep breaths. 

The key to this exercise is not to try and stop or suppress your thoughts or bad memory, the key is to learn how to detach yourself from your bad memory and learn your body how to react more calmly.

The idea is to bring down the emotional reactions and intensity.

It takes a bit of practice, but if you persevere you will get better.

Once you have mastered this mindfulness exercise.

You can use the same principal, should you start reliving your bad memory, as it will quickly calm your mind and body, so you can enjoy what you're doing.

You can either change, distort and play around with the context, sounds and colours of your bad memory, turn the sounds down and drain all the colour away from your bad memory.

Most people try and block out or resist any negative thoughts or any sounds and images of their bad memory because they don't want to experience those thoughts and memories.

But when you deeply relax and you step back from your bad memory and you deliberately allow your mind and body to feel and experience those thoughts and images, then your mind will start to change the way it responds to them.

Once you can do this in a quiet and relaxed place. Anytime, your mind returns to your bad memory, you can step back, observe and focus on staying calm, whilst you allow your mind to visit and experience your bad memory.

Self Havening for anxiety, negative memories and trauma

Havening is a new rapid energy healing and psychological therapy that is able to heal emotional trauma, bad memories, fears, anxiety and stress.

This highly effective emotional healing and releasing method, involves a few simple steps that are easy to learn and easy to apply.

Once you have learned this easy to use techniques which you can do yourself, it will allow you to bring down and detach your levels of anxiety, fear and stress, in a matter of minutes, from severe to almost nothing.

Once you have successfully removed the emotional intensity from your bad memory, trauma or fear, you should not experience the same levels of stress, hurt and emotional suffering again.

If you're interested in giving self havening a try, watch the video below and give it a go.


Emotional trauma at its worst

According to John Leach who is a senior research fellow at the University of Portsmouth. There is now a genuine medical condition which occurs when some people just give up on life.

Leach said that the condition often occurs after a person has suffered severe emotional trauma. 

It appears that some people seem to reach a point where they feel that there is no escape from their mental and emotional torment, imprisonment, stress and pain.

Dr Leach believes that giving up on life after experiencing a major trauma can lead to disintegration of the person which can be fatal in some cases.

The research seems to point towards the theory that severe trauma can lead to a lack of motivation and a belief that the person no longer has any control of their situation and over their mind, feelings and emotions.

Which can lead them to a disinterest in life and a deep sense of hopelessness.

When we lose faith and hope in our ability to free ourselves from our emotional trauma and negative past.

It can lead to feelings of depression and a sense of feeling trapped, isolated, alone and stuck.

Motivation and faith that you can heal your past and you have the ability to take back control of your feelings and emotions are a key ingredient which is necessary to heal your emotional wounds and to regain your interest in life.

Once you start to believe that you can heal and let go of your emotional wounds and trauma.

Dr Leach said the most common interventions were physical activity or the renewed faith that the sufferer was able to see that their situation was partially within their control.

Both of these would activate the release of the feel good endorphin dopamine.

Relaxation, mindfulness and natural techniques that will bring down the emotional intensity and energy charge that is attached to your bad memory. Will also help to put you in control of your feelings and emotions.

Everything changes after a traumatic event or experience

When trauma strikes your life changes and your physiology, attitude and your psychological state changes.

This state of mind and body, then needs reversing and channing, before you can return back to a normal, peaceful and happy life.

Those who do not address and treat their 

  • Bad memories
  • Emotional trauma
  • Emotional suffering
  • PTSD

Remain stuck in a negative and dark place of emotional, physical and psychological imbalance, distress and disharmony.

In this state it is impossible to; 

  • Feel calm and balanced 
  • Experience joy and happiness
  • Enjoy the moment
  • Reach your highest performance levels
  • Be yourself

And it is not just the major traumatic experiences that can negatively impact us. 

Even the smallest negative experience can affect you and haunt you for years and years to come.

Everybody is resourceful enough to come through the most horrific and horrible life situations and it is amazing what strength we can summon up inside of us when we really need it.

"You never know how strong you are, until being strong is your only choice"

-Bob Marley

Real strength and power is when you learn how to control your emotions and you reach a turning point in your life where you allow nothing or nobody to rob you of your inner peace and happiness.

And when you rise up and keep moving forwards in a positive direction, despite what has happened to you, nothing can stop you.

Because you were born free and you can return to that inner calm state of emotional, physical and psychological balance.

Focus you attention on doing something positive or doing the things that you enjoy

There are two parts to our mind, you have you conscious mind, which is the creative part of your mind and your subconscious mind which is all your programming, belief systems, habits and learned behaviors.

Within your subconscious mind you have all your emotional memories. Your conscious mind allows you to visit your past or take a look at your future.

The moment you start thinking about your negative past or you're worrying about what might happen in the future, means that your not grounded or paying attention to what's going on in your now.

What this means is, when you stop focusing on or you're not really consciously paying attention to what's going on in your present moment, your mind will flip over to autopilot.

Unless your then deliberately and consciously in full control of your thinking, and most people aren't most of the time, this is where the subconscious mind will kick in and take over.

When this happens, your subconscious mind will resort to its default settings and negative programming and we will start to focus on our often negative programming and negative experiences.

If you keep playing your negative programming and bad memories then you're going to suffer. This can severely restrict you and make you feel as if you're always going to be the victim of your past.

What can happen then is; people don't do the work that they need or they don't go on to live a great and fantastic life, because they accept or they think that, this is the way it is and there is nothing that they can do.

Yes, some people have to endure the most horrible things, but that doesn't mean that you have to be the victim twice.

Some people use their bad experience to motivate themselves to achieve great accomplishments.

Life is not against you and the world can give you what you want.

Once you learn to let go of your past and you put all your energy into doing what you want and feeling the best you possibly can.

All you have to do is take a look at your life and focus on doing the things that you like, enjoy and what you're good at or what you feel passionate about.

When you have a goal or ambition then it can give your life a new meaning and it can take your mind off what has happened and put it on what can and what will be.

The best way to change is to take a look at your life and examine what you're having a problem with, then work on fixing the root cause of your problem, then switch all your attention on to what you do want.

Once of the best ways to change is to change the feelings. Being grateful, being thankful showing appreciation and even forgiving are great ways to change the way you feel.

Most people think that fear helps to protect them and although it can in a real life threatening situation, most of the time fear does not protect you, in fact to much fear, worry and anxiety is bad for your health.

A philosopher once said: "It is the memories of the past and the fear of the future which make our present so difficult."

What protects you the most is the positive feelings and emotions and love is the highest vibration and the most powerfulest of all emotions.

This does not necessary mean that you need another person to love, because you can find anything to love.

For example; you can love, just about anything;

  • Your life
  • Your home
  • Your car
  • Yourself
  • Nature
  • The food you have
  • The air you breathe
  • Your hobbies

Having a goal, purpose or doing something that you love, is going to make you feel a whole lot better. Fall in love with yourself, your life or you goal, hobby or interests.

When your focusing on doing all the good things that you like, enjoy and love, then this will help you to stay focus in the peace and blissful feelings of living in the present moment and it will prevent your subconscious mind from focusing on your painful past.

Most people's stress and negativity comes from focusing on their pain past or worrying about what might happen in the future.

So many people live in a state of fear and negativity because they either live their life in a state of uncertainty or they are focusing on their painful past.

Instead of perceiving their future in a positive way. They project a negative image and scenario of their future or they live their lives trying to fight their painful past where they are constantly trying to work it all out, defeat it or wrestle it to the ground.

Reduce your tension and reduce your stress

As we have already mentioned. It is important to reduce and manage your stress.

Your biggest enemy that you will ever have to face is tension and stress in your mind and body.

Trauma and psychological disorders can changes your posture and physiology causing tension in the body and physical and chemical symptoms of stress.

Focusing on negative thoughts and negative experiences, can change your biology.

People often get stuck in these tense and stressful states which are also linked to their fight, flight, freeze response.

Your thoughts, feelings and behaviors are linked and they all affect each other.

Tension in the mind causes stress and tension in the body. 

And tension and stress in the body causes more tense and fear related thoughts in the mind which creates a self perpetuating feedback loop in the mind and body.

People who have been traumatised can also automatically go into a tense or shortened posture where their head protrudes forward and is pulled down at the back of the neck, anytime they relive their bad memory or they are reminded of it.

Their shoulders become hunched and stiff and their body collapses. This type of posture is associated to the fight or flight reflex response.

This fight or flight response and reflex posture can become habitual. 

If, for a moment, we view thought as a reflection of feeling, then we can see that the more emotional you become, the closer you get to the all-or-nothing emotional state of the fight-or-flight response.

If we live with heightened stress, we experience more anxiety and are fight or flight response becomes sensitive and  easily activated.

Therefore; our thinking tends to be more extremist and distorted. 

Some people even get stuck in it. In this shrinking posture, which is often known as the startled mode.

In this shortened posture. You can feel more threatened, anxious, sad, insecure and repressed.

Tensing and stiffening your body is also linked to your fight or flight response. 

If you; 

  • Lift up your shoulders
  • Tense and stiffen
  • Lift up your chin and head, too much
  • Stick out your chest
  • Force your shoulders back
  • Arch or stiffen your back
  • Lean back
  • Lean forwards
  • Collapse your body
  • Slouch

Then these insecure, tense and slouched postures, mimics the fight posture and response, which puts you in either a submissive and insecure body posture or a feel threatened body posture.

It is hard to think about tense or anxious thoughts if you smile and you relax your body and free and release your shoulders.

Our shoulder and neck muscles in particular are connected to our fight flight, reflex response mechanism and startled mode. 

When your body is naturally aligned and balanced. You will feel happier, more at ease, more comfortable, less irritated and less anxious.

Making it feel a lot easier for you cope with your challenges and making it easier for you to heal your emotional wounds.

Techniques to lower your stress
  1. Learn how to manage and discharge your anxious thoughts
  2. Physical activity is an effective way to lower your stress. Get moving, exercise, keep active, dance, walk, jog, workout or anything you choose
  3. Yoga, Tai chi, Alexander Technique
  4. Anything that is relaxing, mediation, hypnosis, listening to relaxing audio's, music or videos
  5. Good quality sleep
  6. Journalling a positive future or writing down your feelings on a piece of paper
  7. Massage (You can buy a home massage device)
  8. Getting in out in nature
  9. Painting, drawing, art, photography
How animals quickly get over a terrifying experience

If you observe animals in the wild.

Take a wild Deer for example. 

They will happily be garazing and eating the grass, just getting on with their daily business. 

When all of a sudden, they will come face to face with a life threatening situation. Where they're all of a sudden startled and chased by an angry and hungry lion.

The Deers fight or flight response will kick in and the deer will bolt away. If the Deer is lucky enough to survive the dangerous encounter.

The Deer will quickly settle down, they will process the emotion and they will return to a state of calm and they will soon, let go and forget about their terrifying ordeal and just carry on doing what they were doing and being in the present moment.

They don't dwell on the life threatening encounter, they don't try to fight their feelings. They don't focus on it, hold on to their suffering or try to deal with what happened, or attempt to force themself to forget about it.

They just return their attention back on to the peace of the present moment and they just focus on the task they're doing.

And you to can learn how to let go of your emotions and start to focus your attention on the good things and tasks that you should be focusing on.

Break free from the chains that are imprisoning you

"Have you heard the story of the circus elephant that was chained to a small post and was unable to escape and free himself from the small post and his imprisonment.

The huge elephant could easily snap the chain and escape to freedom. The trouble is, even though he could easily break free, and escape is captivity.

He did not know that and so he never even tried.

The reason why the adult elephant could not escape to freedom was because of the emotional and painful associations and bad memories that were ingrained in his mind.

You, see.

When the elephant was a baby.

The baby elephants trainer, used the same simple methods. Where a chain was tied to the baby elephants leg and then attached to a wooden post.

The chain a post, were strong enough to prevent the baby elephant from escaping. Even, if the baby elephant attempted to break free.

The chain, was strong enough to hold the baby elephant. If when the baby elephant pulled with all his might.

The chain would cut into the baby elephant's leg, and it would create a wound which would cause the baby elephant pain and discomfort.

In the end, the baby elephant soon learned to associate, trying to break free, with pain, after a bit of suffering, he would eventually, give up trying.

Even, when the baby elephant grew up, because of his bad and painful memory, which he associated with trying to escape.

"He would never again try to break free."

So he allowed the memory to rule him and keep him, imprisoned.

You are smarter and wiser than the elephant, and you have the opportunity to break free from the emotional pain of your bad memory.

And therefore, set yourself free from your internal imprisonment and find the emotional freedom, that has always, been available to you.

Shocking statistics reveal the alarming truth

Alarmingly, the statistics suggest that more and more people are struggling to cope with, the psychological, emotional and physical symptoms caused by their bad memories and trauma.

According to the Mental Health Foundation, every year, millions of workdays are lost to to mental health issues, which include, stress, anxiety and depression.

Bad memories and trauma are the root cause most mental issues. Including chronic stress, sadness, depression, anxiety, fear, phobias, unwanted thoughts and obsessive behaviors.

This clearly demonstrates that mental and emotional issues are the leading cause of sickness and absence from work. 

If that is not bad enough to live with. Mental health disorders, and bad memories are linked to mental health issues, are responsible for low moods, loss of interest or pleasure and feelings of guilt or low self-worth.

The number of war veterans who admit they are experiencing PTSD as been estimated to have risen by 70% in the last five years.

But you do not have to be a war veteran or a member of the emergency services, to experience trauma or PTSD. Anybody who has witnessed or experienced a terrifying event, can be affected.

There are thousands of people who are feeling the victims of both physical and psychological abuse or bad relationships or a loss of a loved one.

American Psychological Association, describes emotional trauma as

"The emotional response to an extremely negative event"

The negative event can be a major traumatic experience, but this is not always the case, and you can suffer with years of emotional trauma, from just about, virtually any negative experience.

The first reactions to a negative or traumatic event are usually, the release of adrenaline, a racing pulse, shallow or rapid breathing, confusion, freezing, numbness, disorientation, all of which are part of our fight or flight response.

This is a normal response to a negative situation, and normally, after a while, you would move on and you would return back to your natural state.

However, for many, the effects of the upsetting or negative event, can linger on, long after the event is over, and this is where the problems begin.

Evolution is to blame

Our brains have evolved to try and keep us safe and focus on the negative. This is a good thing in a way, but sometimes this process can go wrong or get out of control, and when it goes out of control it needs to be fixed.

The trouble is, our fight or flight response and survival mechanism is still very primitive, and it can get out of control.

In order to survive when our world was once a dangerous place to live in, our mind and body had to develop a system, where we could go from a state of calm to high energy, power and strength in a matter of seconds, to give us a better chance of surviving.

This is where our fight or flight mechanism was born, it's only flaw is, it does not respond to logic or reasoning, and it is a case of act first, because has far as your mind is concerned, it is better to be safe than sorry.

You cannot just tell your mind you don't want to react to your bad memory, telling your brain to fix itself is like yelling at your computer, when it has got a programming fault.

If you have had a bad or traumatic experience at some stage in your life, your conscious mind will immediately take all the information as input, which it will send to your subconscious mind for processing. 

Once you have been through the bad experience, all the information will stay locked up in your memory bank for later recall, should it be needed. 

Your mind will do everything it can to prevent you from having to endure the same bad experience again, the problem with our minds is.

Your subconscious cannot think logically, your brain just responds to data, physical stressful symptoms in your body and input from your senses. 

All the information that was recorded at the time of your bad experience, will then be stored in your emotional memory bank and used as data to gauge how you should react in the future.

The only thing your mind has got to protect you is strong negative emotions to alert you, which will activate adrenaline and the symptoms of stress so you can try and avoid or escape from the situation, should it happen again.

Even if you have to face that same or similar experience again, your subconscious mind will automatically return to the memory, and bring it back into your conscious awareness which will cause you to feel the same sensations as you did at the time of the bad experience. 

The reason why you cannot just think or talk your bad memory to go away is because there is an invisible barrier that lies between your conscious and subconscious mind.

 This acts a safety mechanism which evolved to help protect you and keep you safe, because if you had to face a real life threat.

Back then, there would be no time for thinking logically, and your mind would act and respond instantly to give you a better chance of surviving.

Therefore, unless you change your inner subconscious programming, your mind will carry on doing what it has been programmed to do, because it thinks it is necessary to help to protect you from having to go through the.

This barrier is a bit like having your own inner security guard whose job is to protect you and prevent anything from reaching your subconscious mind that goes against your previous programming, even though it is your wish to delete the bad memory. 

This is why you will struggle to change or get rid of your bad memory, because your inner security guard thinks you need your old programming to help you avoid having to go through the same bad experience again.

Again, this can be a good thing, because it can help to keep you safe should you about to encounter a real threat or danger.

  But it is no help when your fight or flight response is constantly going off when it is not needed or it is not appropriate, as in the case of your bad memory.

In order to end all the emotional pain and suffering, you have to bypass your inner security guard, so you can access your own subconscious mind.

Why you get stuck in a self perpetuating cycle of stress and anxiety

Everytime you're bad memory causes a stressful response it takes up to 36 hours for your body to get rid of the stress hormones, this is not good for your health or well-being.

If your bad memory is constantly being played out in your mind, your body won't even get a chance to return back to its natural resting state and your body will stay out of balance most of the time.

Bad memories can demoralize your whole quality of your life, they can cause you endless stress, frustration and anxiety, and even lead to depression or alcohol and substance abuse.

Trying to bury your emotional traumas and wounds with alcohol or substance abuse, or trying to occupy your mind with other distraction methods, is not the answer and it can make matters worse.

Alcohol and drugs may temporarily alleviate your emotional hurt and torment, but as soon as their effect wears off, the pain will resurface. 

Alcohol, smoking and drugs are all stimulants, and although they may initially relax you, when their effect wears off, you will feel more stressed and pumped up.

At the moment your bad memory has all the power over you, but it does not have to be that way once you strip away all the strong emotional attachment.

You should not be constantly punished and tormented by an unpleasant experience that happened in the past, which was not your fault.

It is a sad fact of life that very often the victim or the innocent one is left to suffer the most, usually in silence.

What you may not realize is that you have the power and control to erase your bad memory if you decide to do so.

When you get stuck in a cycle and pattern of stress and intrusive thoughts, the high levels of stress can put a strain on your adrenaline glands, and because you get stuck in a state of high levels of stress.

Nutrient deficiency, anxiety and stress

If you have been suffering with post traumatic stress, then it can deplete your body and brain of the natural nutrients that it requires to keep your brain and body in balance and working efficiently.  

A deficiency in the key important nutrients has been associated with depression, anxiety and mood swings.

Long periods of stress and anxiety can deplete your body of all its natural vitamins and nutrients that it requires to keep your mind and body in its peak and most optimum balance and performance efficiency.

A balanced diet of healthy foods rich in nutrients, vitamins and minerals can help to relax you, improve your mood and help you feel less anxious. 

It may pay you to consult your doctor or nutritionist to determine your nutritional needs and daily dosage requirements.

Magnesium is one of the most powerful nutrients that can help reduce stress and anxiety, this key mineral is well known for its natural power to calm you.

How to sit and stand with the least amount of tension

Other studies have shown that there is a link between moods and a deficiency in the B vitamin range.

Again if you're thinking about taking supplements, it may pay you to consult with your doctor or dietician about the correct daily dosage

Vitamin D has also been linked with being able to help reduce stress and anxiety.

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