How To Stop Worrying For Good
The thing to understand about worrying, which might sound a bit strange is.
You can't stop worrying by trying to stop worrying, it simply isn't possible because it cause more of those negative feelings and emotions that are driving your worry thoughts. Which traps you in a vicious circle
So how to you quieten your worried and restless mind and wouldn't it be nice if your mind was still and your body was relaxed and at balanced?
People will try all sorts of distraction and coping techniques to try and stop worrying. Like keeping themselves busy, drinking, reading, participating in their hobbies or going out.
Many people dread their own company, because they can't quit their negative mental chitchatter.
But as soon as your alone or quiet for a moment, the worry starts off tormenting you again. Sometimes, even when you're doing something or you're in company, your mind will carry on worrying.
If you're a chronic worrier than for your own health, well-being and sanity. Then you will benefit tremendously in some many positive ways if you taught yourslf how to calm your worrying mind.
The golden rule of how to stop worrying. Is don't try to stop worrying or don't try to suppress your negative thoughts.
Because if you try to stop thought it will be like trying to paddle upstream against a very strong and turbulent current, where you will get nowhere and you will end up beaten, tired, frustrated and exhausted.
All that will do is cause more emotional arousal and stress and even more worry.
People think it is hard to stop worrying, but actually once you learn how to be mindful and catch it in time, you can calm your mind and body, very quickly.
The way to calm your mind is to practice leaving your mind alone and if you let your mind carry on thinking the worry thoughts, whilst you relax and refuse to react to your mind, and your mind will quieten and calm down all by itself.
Whatever it is that is bothering you, surrender to it, give up the fight and let it go of whatever it is that you're resisting.
Once your mind is still and your body is relaxed, then you can either deal with your problem in the best way you can or just let the matter go and focus your attention on something more positive or constructive..
- What has happened
- What is
- What might happen
- Calm your mind and body
- Focus on the solution instead of the problem
The potential health risks of excessive worrying
Some of the physical symptoms of stress and worry
- Raised blood pressure and raised heart beat, if left unchecked, this can lead to further complication like heart diseases and strokes which is now classed as the leading causes of death in the developed world
- Stress and worry can higher the risks of digestive disorders and ulcers
- It can weaken your immune system, making it harder to stave of illnesses and many other forms of diseases
- Increases your chances of developing diabetes, it causes premature ageing
- To much worry is linked to going grey or even worse making your hair fall out
- Negative stress caused by worry can stifle your creativity, make it hard for you to concentrate and recall memories, it also prevents you from absorbing and memorizing new information
- Worrying can lead to emotional stress, high tension living and negative feelings
- Overactive thyroid, sleep deprivation, frequent colds, arthritis and even tooth decay.
Use your worries to grow and expand
Worrying is not always a bad thing, and the worst thing you can do is to try and bury and suppress your worries.
Because they can be a message from your subconscious mind that you may need to pay attention to something or that there is a particular problem or an area in your waking reality that you may need to work on.
Sometimes there could be a genuine reason for your worrying, and a little bit of worry can help to keep us guarded so we avoid making mistakes.
But worry needs to be managed, because it focuses you on the negative, it will generate physical symptoms of stress, and long periods of worry can
The trick is, not to dwell on your worries, and you should only use them to plan for things to go well or to help you to grow and solve your problems.
If you use your worrying correctly then it can help you to find solutions and some worriers end up being high achievers.
This does not mean that you should spend all your time buried in the emotion of the problem, because you cannot find the solutions so quickly if you're stuck in a
Stress is the defense physiology and state, and to solve your problems you need to be in the relaxed creative state.
According to a recent study at the Kings College London, worriers were shown to have more activity in the part of the brain that deals with fear, but it is also the part of the brain for creativity.
Therefore worriers are forwards thinkers and believed to be more creative, but if you want to take full advantage of your creativity, you need to calm your mind and body.
If you're worried about something, then because of the health consequences you will need to reduce your stress first, then focus with a clear mind to find a solution to your problem.
Use your imagination wisely
Worrying is all based on the what if questions and scenarios and it is a stressful response to uncertainty.
Our imagination allows us to try and project and predict the future, this was designed to keep us safe.
#the downside to our imagination is, we can get very good at imagining things going wrong and we can traumatize ourselves over something that has not even happened.
Humans are not very good with uncertainty, they like to feel safe and secure, so it can be helpful to let you know when you face uncertainty, that you can handle it or whatever happens you'll be ok.
When your imagination is depicting everything going wrong, try to stay calm and just observe and let your mind calm down by itself.
Or you can try imagining the worst case scenario and seeing yourself dealing with it in a calm and controlled manner or imagine you've already come through the situation and everything went well.
Worry can be used as a motivator, because if you're worried about a forthcoming event, then you can use your worry, to help you plan and better prepare yourself for the situation ahead.
Dr. Alexis Carrel, once said,
"Prepare to accept the worst and improve on it if need be".
Ask yourself what is the worst could happen. The worst thing that could happen in life is death, if you know that you're not going to die, then see it as a challenge for you to overcome because it is not worth worrying about.
"No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it"
Become An Optimist
Do you always tend to think of the worst case scenario first and then you carry on giving all your attention only to the worst possible outcome, are you the sort of person that never looks on the positive side of things.
The universe always offers a choice of possibilities, both good and bad, it is far better to think about all of the good possibilities and then make them your future reality.
The opposite state to worry is to be an optimist, when your an optimist you won't worry, sure you will have challenges to face and overcome, but as long as you see them as a challenge and you start to relish each challenge then you will have far less trouble with worry.
Once you become an optimist and a creative problem solver, you will know that just by switching your thinking you will be able to achieve or overcome anything that gets in your way.
If you're worried about losing your job,
Tell yourself whatever it is your find a solution or a better way of dealing with it and overcoming it. Everything always turns out fine as long as you get out of the way and you allow it to happen, all you have to do is, trust and remain positive and optimistic.
Practice being mindful of the type of thoughts and things that are causing you to worry, find somewhere to relax, takes some slow deep breaths, breathe in for seven then out for ten, then allow your mind to think about your worry whilst you just watch and remain calm.
Remember that the problem is rarely as bad as the worry thoughts
Worrying is negative planning for the future, the thinking about worry is, the thought of it is nearly always worse than the situation or circumstance itself.
Most worries only really exist in the head, so therefore they don't exist in actual reality, so ineffectively you're afraid and you're responding negatively to your imagination.
To overcome worry, you need to take a realistic look at the situation, you need a plan of action and you need to come up with the most effective ways to deal with and overcome the problem.
Ask yourself what is the worst case scenario that could happen, what would you do if that worry actually happened.
Would it be as bad as you imagined and what steps can you take to deal with it or avoid it from happening.
Avoid too much forward planning unless it is about something that is going to benefit you or something you actually looking forward to.
Remember, every new day is a different reality and a chance to re-evaluate the situation and make a fresh start, so seize the window of opportunity and start the day off with a clean slate.
If you have done something wrong and it is bothering you, try and get the situation sorted as quickly as possible.
Plan as much as possible and then, expect the best case scenario to happen, there are no certainties in life.
But we are the creators of our own destiny to a large degree and we are meant to learn from our mistakes and not be punished by them so we grow and move forwards.
Stay in the present moment
If any time you feel stressed or anxious, try and bring yourself back into the present again, it is pointless to try and stop feeling anything, you cannot force your feelings away.
Just accept them unconditionally and let them pass
Any time you have to face a stressful situation, spend a few minutes doing some deep, slow breathing beforehand, this will train your mind and body to stay calm in those challenging situations.
Breathe in for the count of five, hold the breath for three seconds, then breathe out for the count of seven, if you feel stressful, return back to your slow breathing as it will put a
We worry because we get stuck in a state of nervous anticipation, this cause us to become anxious about something that has not even happened yet.
What you need to know is, worrying will not change the outcome, to switch back to a calm energy you have to bring yourself back into the present moment because that's where the calm and positive energy lies.
Worry thoughts will take you out of the present moment, which will cause a resistance to your free flowing energy, it's a bit like trying to block the path of flowing water or swimming against the current.
When you return to the present, your energy will flow freely again, the way to get yourself out of the negative trance you have gotten into, is to let go of what you're thinking about.
To engage you in the present stop thinking and start doing, just do the things you love or enjoy and keep yourself occupied.
If you're stuck doing a boring job, focus on what you're doing, or create and plan for a positive and fulfilling future.
Try listening to the radio, sing to yourself. If you're going to think then you might as well think about things that make you feel good, and most definitely, release anything that makes you feel bad.
Keep your body relaxed
Any tension in your mind or body is bad for you, constant worry will put your body into a stressful and tense state. By learning to keep your body free of tension will help you to worry less.
It's important to have a tension free posture and when your body is aligned, balanced and poised and your resting on your
When your body is tense or out of alignment, then you will feel more frustrated, uncomfortable and irritable, when your mind is quiet and your body is balanced it is hard to think negative.
Combined with a balanced, aligned and relaxed posture, having a massage will make you feel so much better.
Go for a twenty minute walk when you finish work and just stop thinking and start observing nature and your environment to rid yourself from the day's stresses and strains.
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